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Here’s 3 I didn’t see on the list… Perspective… It speaks for itself. Shift the way you see things and perceive what you never have. Which leads to the next P. Paradigm… What paradigm are you living in? Your perspective can create a paradigm shift by transforming your conception of reality. These are all interrelated. Paradox… Will you free your mind and embrace living with life’s paradoxes, all of these apparent contradictions. For example by making a decision you cut off other choices, yet doing so may paradoxically give you greater freedom and satisfaction. There are infinite examples… Perspective, paradigms, and paradox…

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Look, this is a super important post you shared here @Ted Carr . I could have used knowing this when I first started coaching 10 years ago, but I learned it experientially, and it still stings but now it isn't a surprise when clients turn. Most coaches never talk about this, or share about how even GREAT clients can turn sour, because they are human and stuff happens in their lives, even if it has nothing to do with you. I had a client send me updates and rave about the things she was benefiting from our work together a year after we had already finished a year of coaching. Then one day, I mentioned that I hadn't seen her on instagram posting lately, and that was a trigger for her. Here's why, she was struggling with her weight and exercising, it was one area she didn't want to bring to our conversation as she hired out a coach specifically for that, and she was using her posts as an accountability tool. I didn't know that. Anyways, I received a super nasty email from her, saying all sorts of nonsense, but I could feel she was suffering. Anyways, she said she didn't want to speak. So it was. Now... I have super strong agreements with my clients. I get paid up front. They know their are never refunds, period. I had a series of great emails from her raving about her life, and in some ways she was one of my best client stories, one of my first 10k clients. It ate me up quite a bit. Had me questioning myself. Disappointed me that someone I gave my best too, who I wanted to win in life, turned around and acted in the manner she did. Well... A year after the fact, we emailed once or twice, and she said something along the lines of, "Oh that, I was dealing with my ex and going through some other stuff and..." She didn't apologize, and in fact I could sense here embarrassment at her behavior. I understood it. Still... Anyways, I've conversed with some great coaches, some charging clients 50 to 100 k for annual coaching and they all shared some similar stories, many in fact.

One more thing I want to add for those commenting. The advice you read here is great, but it doesn't mean you won't have these kind of clients. It comes with the territory. If you have a need to be liked by everyone, you will be a very weak coach. You are better off preparing yourself for it and let it be a sign of being exceptional, that sometimes, some of your clients turn into silly butts. Remember we are always dealing with HUMANS... You are one of them and you are certifiably crazy in your own peculiar ways as am I. It's great. If you don't know what I am speaking of reference my reply above. Wishing you abundance and crazy good success as you define it, Emeric Damian

Principles… They are foundational to power and performance…