What if he is working out (and has been for months now) but still doesn’t eat great and hasn’t lost any weight? And when I ask how he is feeling, he says “great” but I’m still in the same position I’ve been in. I haven’t brought it up to him in the way you say to here though. That feels really hard. But he is making an effort in some ways just not the ways that seem to be moving the needle. Love both of your laughs and smiles by the way. Looking forward to tomorrow.

@Steve Coughran thank you for this response. It is so helpful but I still feel really scared to talk to him about it even though it is having a negative effect on us. I can see how he uses food (and beer) to numb his experience of life as well. I really appreciate your insights and perspective.