I am coming up with another challenge and I need to know who is in?

"No" may be one of the most powerful words I have ever experienced. The way it makes us feel when someone else says it, or when we say it, can conjure strong emotions. Amazing, right? A simple two letter word that weilds strength like lightning. It would bode us well to examine this word, it's significance, and what it can do for us when we use it effectively. Saying "no" is fundamentally an act of self-respect and honesty. Consider this. Any time you say "yes" when you mean "no", several things occur. •We give away time and energy we did not have. •Resentment quietly build towards those who take our resources. •We train others to expect our compliance. •We slowly lose trust in ourselves. "Yes" only means something if your "no" is real. But why does saying "no" feel so difficult? People who struggle with saying "no" have been conditioned for a few reasons: •Fear of rejection — "They won't like me anymore." •Guilt — "I'm being selfish." •Conflict avoidance — "It's easier to just say yes." •People-pleasing identity — When our self worth becomes tied to being /feeling helpful. •Cultural/family conditioning — Being raised in an enviroment where saying "no" was punished. Now we're gettin somewhere! Notice that maybe at some point in your life, you learned that the word "no" is a shameful, selfish, evil word. I may not be the first person to say it, or the last, but this is utter nonsense. A purely irrational, sure fire way towards a life of unnecessary suffering. This discomfort hurts deep, because deep down inside our hearts, we know this suffering was optional. "If only I had spoken up. I had a choice, but I was too afraid to say anything." That type of emotion cuts us to the core. Let's try reframing the word "no", and peeling back some of its layers. Observe how each of these phrases makes you feel, and how they can help you. OLD BELIEF - Saying "no" is selfish. NEW BELIEF - Saying "no" is honest. OLD BELIEF - "No" hurts people. NEW BELIEF - Fake "yes'es" hurt people more.

Sorry I missed the chat mostly....I had put in a call to this florist earlier today and they call you back and I had to take it. They delivered my 2 twin sisters' flowers a day late. And my internet was acting up. Crazy woman here right now! LOL

Mental or psychological trauma arises from events that overwhelm a person’s ability to cope, creating lasting, disturbing memories and emotions. No one is completely immune to the consequences of trauma. We all have our history. We all tried the best we knew how, and still got bit at some time in our lives. But it doesn't take a genius to realize, we cannot physically LIVE in the past! So how is it that our history becomes our present experience? The thing about trauma is, it alters the brain's reaction to stress, causing people to feel unsafe even in safe situations. So right now, you may be in your bed, completely safe, but inside, you are shredding yourself to pieces, feeling all the past hurt, tearing your confidence to pieces because your nerves tell you otherwise. So much of my life I spent time in bed ruminating for days, doing absolutely nothing because my mindset was purely in the past, or future. Never in the now. That was the key. The now. The never ending moment right here. It never leaves, and is the only moment we have. Within this eternal moment, there exists the power. If I can somehow access this very moment, with a fresh idea, a new thought, a new idea, and brand new experience, THAT is the power. When you can tap into the now, live in that moment, and chose the best option in the now, you find you cannot entertain the past or present. You get lost in the moment, and begin to free yourself from the prison of thought. I am not my past, I am not my future. I am the now, and I am to be celebrated for the beauty too rich for words to describe. Integrate love now. Only look to the future with love, your past with compassion, and your present as a devine gift of plenty. Use your power, stay connected, engage in the moment fully. Show me how it's done!!!

Day one of really focusing on me… it’s fair to say I don’t know what that looks like as it’s quite a unusual feeling, it has taken some redirecting of thoughts… but overall I’ll take a baby step or two of a win… I woke up I made my bed, I went for a quick walk (the weather isn’t the nicest this morning) I showered , i listened to my nature sounds and did some meditation, I read 2 chapters in my book and I gave myself 10 minutes to write in my journal…