An absolute pleasure, Joi! 💜

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@Udo Reulbach Thank you so much! 💜🙏

@Terence James Thank you very much, Terence! 💜🙏

I'm definitely loosening the grip on control in many areas. Especially seeing as there is no use in attempting to control. I am not God. But there are several areas that still need work. I definitely still overwork to feel safe though. Seems it's my coping mechanism. Although I have reduced this a bit in the last few months. It's better than it used to be. Trying to build a life where that's not necessary by following the path of least resistance and trusting that the Divine is always working for my highest good. I am trusting that God will provide. God is a faithful God and He will not let you down. 💜 I absolutely used to have issues with trust and I used to completely abandon myself for others. I have developed very strong boundaries over that last year though. Based on Aaron's latest video, I came out of the codependency phase, now I'm in the independence phase. Feel like I'm almost ready to reach the interdependence phase. Trusting the process. 🙌 Walking by faith and not by sight. Love and light to you all! 💜🪷

The fact that she wants a break says quite a lot on its own. It's normal to take a break occasionally, but not without a plan in sight. First of all, remind yourself that her choice says nothing about you, but it says the world about her (no offence meant to her in any way), and second of all, if you choose that you would like to move forward to find someone who doesn't just walk away when things get tough, take a look at 'neural unpairing'. This technique helped me greatly when I finally decided that I deserve to be chosen and not just an option they can think about after 17 years of circling the same person (twin flame concept). Every time I thought about them, I reminded myself that those are old feelings attached to an old version of myself and him, and that we are both different people now. This creates space between you and those thoughts and feelings. I also believe in a higher power and I believe that the higher power has my best interests at heart. Everything happens for a reason and sometimes old things need to be cleared out to make room for new things. This may be showing you that self-worth comes from withing and not from outside. I no longer seek external validation. It was very hard at first but with practice, it comes naturally. Trust in the plan that God/the universe has for you! You have got this! 🪷

@Marinos Dimitrov Thank you for explaining that, Marinos! 🪷Sorry for jumping to conclusions. Having additional background is very helpful. 🙏 Honestly, in my humble opinion, I think honesty is the best policy. Honesty will never destroy true love. It is scary to be vulnerable and to bear your heart to someone because the ego will feel like you are giving them power. It could possibly be a 'power move' on both parts not to message due to potential fear of vulnerability. It could also be that she is afraid to push you further away if you are the one who called for the break. If you are both willing to come together and put your cards on the table, then you will be able to deal with the real situation at hand instead of dancing around it. The ego makes us do that sometimes as a survival mechanism. Tell her what your attachment style is and how you are going to work on that for yourself personally (so you can build happiness in yourself - we should never outsource our happiness - I learnt this the hard way). Then, if you have an idea of what her attachment style is, speak to her about ways she could potentially work on that. The goal for both of you to be happy as individuals is to get to a place where you are able to demonstrate secure attachment. I used to have anxious attachment style and I am still doing the work to iron that out. It is a journey and a process. There is no such thing as perfect. If you truly love this woman, then make it known to her. Set out some guidelines on how you can both work on this as a team - after all, a relationship is meant to be teamwork, it takes two to tango. It becomes very draining when it is one-sided and that needs to be made known if you feel you have had more pressure. Take an honest look at what your arguments have been about, what has been triggering you that she has been doing? Why has it been triggering you? Is it genuine disrespect or is it something you are reacting to as a protective mechanism from past pain you may not have worked through fully yet? If it is disrespect, there is nothing you can do to fix that, that is her personal choice and we are not responsible for other people's feelings. If it is you feeling triggered from past pain, take an honest look at it and see what this is trying to show you that needs to be healed. Like Aaron himself as said before, we 'kick each others stuff up' in relationships. We show each other where we haven't healed yet. THat is often the purpose of a relationship spiritually. It's kind of like a mirror showing you parts of yourself. Once you look at it this way, you can then consciously work through whatever is coming up in you that is brought about by the other person. These things are usually a response to pain or fear. Pain still in the subcosncious from childhood possibly or fear perhaps of rejection or being alone.