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Red Letter Iron Day 52 — Don't Be Ashamed of Me
Red Letter Quote #1 (KJV) — Mark 8:38 "Whosoever therefore shall be ashamed of me and of my words… of him also shall the Son of man be ashamed…" Brother, I'm going to talk straight: you can't follow Me and hide Me. You can't claim Me and shrink back when it costs you. Some men are ashamed of Me because they fear people. They fear mockery. They fear being labeled. They fear losing access. They fear looking different. So they keep Me private—like a secret hobby. But the Kingdom is not a hobby. It's allegiance. I'm not asking you to be loud. I'm asking you to be unashamed. Unashamed means you don't bury My words when culture disagrees. Unashamed means you don't edit truth to fit in. Unashamed means you don't hide behind "I'm not religious" while still living compromised. Brother, you're a man. Men stand. And if you're thinking, "But I've failed. I've sinned. I've been inconsistent." Hear Me: shame is not humility. Shame is a weapon. Shame tells you to hide. Shame tells you you're disqualified. Shame tells you to keep distance from Me. But conviction draws you close. Conviction cleans you. Conviction restores you. So don't wear shame like a badge. Repent and rise. That's what sons do. Being unashamed starts at home. Speak My name. Lead your family. Set standards. Pray with your kids. Open the Word like it matters. It continues in your friendships. Stop laughing at what dishonors Me. Stop blending in when you know it's wrong. Stop letting men drag you into darkness with "it's no big deal." Brother, your courage will free other men. Because there are brothers around you who are scared too—they just need one man to stand first. So stand. Not arrogant—anchored. Not self-righteous—submitted. Not loud—faithful. Don't be ashamed of Me or My words. This world needs men who are willing to be different. Red Letter Quote #2 (ASV) — Matthew 10:32 "Every one therefore who shall confess me before men, him will I also confess before my Father who is in heaven."
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Crazy how the Bible stands the test of time, still speaks to us, thousands of years later. My sister just brought up this very subject tonight, before I read this post. Thanks, as always, for the pertinent words.
Five Minutes a Day: Reclaiming Your Soul
Five minutes a day. Did you ever find yourself giving your sharpest focus to deals, deadlines, other people's problems, and handing God whatever was left at the end of the day? Just leftovers. Hey, that's what I gave God for fifty-seven years. I was disciplined, early riser, hard worker, CEO. I ran my schedule like a business, and my soul got the scraps. Then, then I'd wonder why peace felt so far, why I felt hollow even when things were going right. You can't run a kingdom life on a leftover faith. Then I tested one small thing, one. Five minutes. No phone, no agenda, just scripture and silence. Not to perform, just to return. It felt awkward at first, then grounding. Then I started protecting that five minutes like a meeting with someone who actually mattered, because he does. Hey, transformation doesn't start big. It starts daily. You don't need two hours. You need five honest minutes and the guts to show up. Start there.
Five Minutes a Day: Reclaiming Your Soul
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This is exactly where I'mat rt now. Get up earlier, start the day with Christ. Lauren brought me to wedding at the citadel, years ago. One of the stories I heard was about how strict the military was about how you make your bed in the morning, which I feel is general knowledge. What isn't widely known is the reason behind it. Why are they such sticklers about perfectly tucking in your sheets? How does this improve ones ability to serve the military? When you start the day off with a small success, it sets you up to accomplish greater feats. When you do that simple thing perfectly, it trains you to approach other challenges the same way. When I start my day off with Christ, it sets me up to handle whatever the day brings, in a Christain way. For me, it is far easier to see things through love and forgiveness when I start my day with the Word. Thank you for helping me forge new habits.
Where are you today?
Today, as we are about to get snowed in on the Carolina coast, I wanted to ask a question to this small group of men. Where are you in your faith walk? There is very little asked here in this group. What do you need? What , if anything would have a greater impact, and make you want you to come back here more often?
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@Dino Medler hello Dino...I am circling back to some older posts and wanted to see how your fast went?
Red Letter Iron Day 48 — Guard Your Eyes, Guard Your Heart
Red Letter Quote #1 (KJV) — Matthew 6:22 "The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light." Brother, your eyes are a gate. And whatever you keep letting in will eventually shape who you become. I said the eye is the light of the body because sight feeds the soul. What you watch doesn't stay on the screen. It lands in your mind. It fuels cravings. It shapes desires. It trains you to either honor or consume. If your eye is single—focused, disciplined, your whole body is full of light. That means clarity. Strength. Clean confidence. Peace. But when your eye is divided—always wandering—your inner life gets dark. You start living distracted. Restless. Dissatisfied. Always wanting more, even when God has blessed you. Brother, don't underestimate what "little looks" do over time. The linger. The scroll. The "just checking." The late-night isolation. It's not little when it starts building an appetite you can't control. So today, I'm calling you to a clean gate. Not just behavior change—vision change. You stop feeding what weakens you. And this isn't about becoming weird or fearful. It's about becoming free. Freedom isn't you being able to look at anything. Freedom is you being able to say no—fast—without debate. So set the guardrails like a wise man. Cut off the accounts. Change the inputs. Move the phone out of the bedroom. Don't sit alone at night "just scrolling." Bring it into the light. Get accountability. Because the enemy doesn't need to destroy you in one blow. He just needs to darken you slowly. Brother, your wife deserves a man with disciplined eyes. Your future deserves a man with a clean mind. Your calling deserves a man who can focus. Make your eye single. Fill your whole life with light. Red Letter Quote #2 (KJV) — Matthew 6:23 "But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness…"
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Im reminded of my Mother, constantly, telling me "birds of a feather", growing up. Now that I have my own little mind to influence, this is one of the songs he hears: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=TiVIueuhgt8 Thus is exactly why I was thankful to join this group...daily influence. Thank you.
Red Letter Iron Day 47 — Don't Judge Like a Hypocrite
Red Letter Quote #1 (KJV) — Matthew 7:5 "Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye." Brother, I'm not forbidding discernment—I'm forbidding hypocrisy. It's easy to see what's wrong with other men. It's easy to critique. Easy to point. Easy to talk about "their issues." But I told you: start with you. Because a man who won't confront himself becomes dangerous. He becomes harsh. He becomes blind. He becomes self-righteous—while still living compromised. And hypocrisy isn't just spiritual—it's relational. It's correcting your wife's tone while your tone is brutal. It's expecting your kids to listen while you won't listen. It's demanding respect while you won't repent. It's judging another man's sin while you protect your own. So I said: first cast out the beam out of thine own eye. That means deal with your stuff—honestly. Not excuses. Not blame. Not "that's just how I am." When you confront yourself first, you get clear. And then when you speak to your brother, you speak with humility— not superiority. Brother, correction is needed in the Kingdom. But correction without self-examination becomes poison. So today, before you call anybody out, call yourself up. Ask: where am I compromised? Where am I drifting? Where am I hiding? Where am I defensive? Where am I making excuses? Then bring it to the Father. Confess it. Cut it off. Change it. Because a man who repents becomes safe. Safe to lead. Safe to correct. Safe to build with. And hear Me—when you do correct, do it to restore, not to win. Do it to help a brother rise, not to prove you're better. Start with you. Then you'll see clearly. Red Letter Quote #2 (ASV) — Matthew 7:1 "Judge not, that ye be not judged."
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Good message, as always! I often remind myself when other ppl get undermy skin, to remember that feeling when I feel the desire to be critical of others (I do a lot of reminding!)
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