“What might I be missing” love this. And I’ve also noticed curiosity does soften tension especially when it’s not me focused.

I want to hear practical conversations on conflicts that we deal with often like with spouses and even with kids. There’s so many opportunities in a day that stretch us and I think often I am missing opportunities practice and grow.

Energy booster: speaking to a former coaching program friend. Just catching up and sharing some me leanings and growth. Energy drain: I’ve never filed for unemployment and at this point I wanna say nevermind cause what?!?😫

@Alexis Felton whoever said growth is easy has never really grown. Though tense as you it shows maturity and also care for yourself and your sister.

Just today I had my brother-in-law’s wife reach out to me about a tense situation she had with our mother-in-law. Though my MIL does wear her emotions on her sleeve and sometimes has outbursts it seemed odd to me. I was thinking about it later and I realized something … they have traveled back to Lagos and the house they went back to was new. The last time she was there she was in the home her and her husband had lived in for over 15 years and where he had also taken his last breathe. I realized that though it might’ve been coming out as an outburst about something small this was probably underneath. I shared with my co sister-in-law and she said actually my MIL later mentioned it subtly. That listening for what’s underneath is a practice that we can all probably do more of before jumping to just how it makes us feel.

I’ve been working on this … not everything needs to be said especially in the moment. I’ve been realizing a lot of it for me has been coming from a place of needing to have the last word.