Today, give yourself 20 unrushed minutes. No productivity attached. No multitasking. No catching up. Sit outside. Drink your tea. Take a bath. Walk. Listen to music. Pray. Be still. 👉 Then come back and tell us: Was slowing down comfortable for you… or did you feel like you should be doing something? That answer might reveal something. 👀

Healthy love requires the ability to communicate what is happening inside of you instead of expecting another person to figure it out. ~ When something bothers you, what is your natural tendency: communicate, withdraw, criticize, control, shut down, or pretend you’re fine? No judgment. Just awareness. Then finish this sentence: “A healthier way for me to communicate would be…”

CommonHer: “I keep making the same mistakes.” Keptie: “Awareness is evidence that I’m no longer the woman moving unconsciously.” Recognizing a pattern doesn’t mean you’ve failed. Sometimes recognizing it is the first evidence that you’re finally positioned to change it. ~ What pattern can you see more clearly today than you could at the beginning of the year?

Your micro move today is simple: ~Receive something without minimizing it. A compliment. Help. A door being opened. Someone doing something thoughtful. Your husband handling something. A friend offering support. No “you didn’t have to.” No immediately returning the favor. Just: “Thank you.” 👉 Come back and tell us what you allowed yourself to receive.

Being wife-minded isn’t only about preparing to get married. It’s continuing to develop the woman who knows how to participate in a healthy marriage. *What have you learned about yourself in relationship this year? If you’re single, consider how you relate to family, friends, dates, and the people closest to you. If you’re partnered or married, consider what your relationship has revealed. What is love teaching you about YOU?