When it comes to co-parenting, few topics trigger bigger emotions than introducing a new partner. It can feel personal, it can feel vulnerable, and it can expose old wounds. But it doesn’t have to become a battleground. With a little planning, you can turn this into a moment that strengthens your co-parenting foundation instead of shaking it. Here are 3 options to keep your peace when informing your ex partner that you are seeing someone new: Option 1 – Collaborative & Warm “Hey, I wanted to give you a quick heads-up that I’m seeing someone, and things have been going well. Before there’s any introduction to the kids, I wanted to touch base with you so we can make sure it’s handled in a way that feels consistent and comfortable for them. I don’t need personal info or to share more than what’s relevant — just hoping we can keep things predictable for the kids. Let me know if you’re open to chatting about pacing and language so we can be on the same page.” Option 2 – Clear & Boundaried “I wanted to let you know that I’m planning a future introduction between the kids and someone I’m dating. Nothing is happening right away. When it does, I’d like us to agree on a simple plan that keeps things calm and predictable for the kids. I’m not asking for permission — just making sure we communicate so the kids feel supported.” Option 3 – If the relationship with the ex is high-conflict “I’m giving you advance notice that I am in a relationship. At some point, there will be an introduction to the kids. I will keep you informed about timing so their routine stays consistent. I’m not looking to discuss personal details — only relevant information that helps the children feel secure. I’ll let you know before any introduction happens.” If you happen to be on the receiving end of this and aren't sure how to respond, here are 3 respectful, non-confrontational responses to use when your Ex informs you about a new partner: 1.Calm, Neutral, and Respectful “Thanks for letting me know. I appreciate the heads-up. If/when the kids are going to meet them, just keep me posted so I can help keep things consistent on my end.”