Myth: Receiving means “being done to” Often we conflate receiving as “feminine” and giving as “masculine” and we see it in very specific ways in heterosexual intimacy (i.e.; penetrative sex). We begin to believe that it’s our obligation to “receive” what is given to us. This is bunk. In Ready to Receive I'll break this down and guide you through experiencing "receiving" somatically (in your body) so that you can become the cycle breaker for the next generation. Ready to Receive is my 6 week course. This is my first round of the course and it's your opportunity to get in before I officially launch at a deeply discounted rate. Details: 6 weeks of webinar format lessons that will be recorded 6 weeks of live group practices, Q&A and guidance (not recorded) Weekly on Fridays at 8:30 am to 10:30 am PDT. Cost $297 (limited time) Got questions? Put them in the chat! Ready to join and become Ready to Receive?- here's the link! https://www.skool.com/readytoreceive/about

A truly sexually empowered woman does not PERFORM eroticism She slows down and she notices what is happening in her body She is not looking to the outside to be desired or feel validated She values herself first She is focused on her own body and where pleasure and desire is showing up And she trusts what it tells her She even notices her own stress responses that might arise and she understands her patterns and believes herself when something feels "off" She asks questions and states her desire She does not manipulative, obfuscate or guess what someone else wants She is direct, secure and has her own back She does not give more of herself than is reciprocated She knows that she is enough She knows that she holds the power She does not need to wield it to get what she wants She already has want she wants And she discerns with whom and how she will share it

Hey, I’m curious… Have you ever been intimate with someone (whether a casual or close partner) and had something “surprising” done to you? You were DOWN, you were having fun and then BOOM- something unexpected and unwelcomed! I know I have. I was having sex for the first time with a man and next thing I know there’s a finger in my butt hole! And you know what I did…..I went along with it! I didn’t want it. I didn’t ask for it. I tried to feel some pleasure but it wasn’t there. I think I went into a freeze response about it even though I was still acting our intimacy. Then the next day I was angry! Or perhaps it’s more subtle than that. You feel unsettled after sex. It has moments but it never feels really juicy and satisfying. It doesn’t bring you closer, it leaves you with questions. For me I would often try to impress them with “skills” instead of asking what they really want. Or laying there receiving oral sex that felt like it wasn’t about me- it was something they wanted or solely trying to make me have an orgasm so they could feel like they achieved something. A lot of it boils down to this one thing… One of my teachers, Betty Martin, really hones in on this in The Wheel of Consent: The Art of Giving and Receiving. We don’t think about this but it’s really key- ➡️ WHO IS IT FOR? ⬅️ We don’t often think about who pleasure is for when we’re intimate. Instead we fool ourselves into thinking that it’s for everyone involved but do we ever really get clear about that? Are you ever asked how you want to be pleasured or do you ask how they want to be pleasured? Or do you rely on past experience with them (or even past partners) to “give” something you think they want? Are you able to ask for something or do you shrink yourself and fall into “giving” or “pleasing” mode? Is it easier to try to give rather than to receive? These are the things I'm tackling in my new course... Here is your chance to get clarity on giving and receiving and become READY TO RECEIVE.

I know you’re feeling it too 2026 has been one hell of a shit show What past generations of women have known and we have known in our bodies, whether unconsciously or consciously, is being exposed Right now the knowing doesn’t help Being “right” doesn’t feel good And there is still denial so we continue… What are you doing to hold yourself during these times? Here’s what I’m doing: I’ve joined an intimate group of women who span generations and are forging a matriarchal business path This is falling under the brand Breadwinner Energy and my business coach, Tay Daniels. I’ve been working with Tay for over a year and now I am one of 4 selected to become the Founding Mothers of her new licensing group. In this group we prioritize the COLLECTIVE over individuality and support one another to build a MARTRIARCHAL system that thrives on our collective expertise and support. The expertise I bring to the group is around sexuality and intimacy. I am an Erotically-sourced Creatrix. My life is designed around what turns me on. I thrive in the relationship dynamic that I envisioned over ten years ago. We are building our lives together in a new home that we are pouring our creative energy into. We are caring for one another. Yet…I am finding the patterns of survival nagging at me. It shows up even when I feel safe It shows up even when I am conscious and taking care of myself It shows up even as I build a beautiful life with my love and beauty all around me At times it is RAGE And often it is deep grief And it is also subtle disconnection Is it so with you too? If it is, stay tuned. I will be inviting you to a special offer soon to help us through these subtle disconnections. It is a path to facing the patterns that we’ve inherited and a plan to break the cycle. It is a step forward to become Ready to Receive. Reminder to myself in these times that you are invited to take on: “Right now I am okay.” Sending you lots of love!

We've been taught to worry about how others are perceiving us and what value we bring to a relationship but this week's episode of Juicy Bits With Carmen invites you to flip that conditioning on its head. Do you relationships (or potential relationships) meet YOUR standards? Show up as yourself instead of shapeshifting into what you think the other person needs or wants (because you're probably wrong anyway) and ask yourself... "Are they what I want?" Check out the episode here or on other platforms like Apple, iHeart Radio and Amazon. https://open.spotify.com/episode/38Rv63oPehOeCvmqBIjJTG?si=RaPL7ekXRb-_ZWHgF9sVkQ