I take a moment and remember that we are all one and then I strive to find something that they are teaching me through their anger or unruly ways. If I can't feel or find anything that they are teaching me in that moment I simply move to another room or walk away--I let them be and send them love from afar. I didn't used to be this way ... forever the people pleaser trying to change them or plead with them or negotiate with them. But I have come to realize that that just drains my energy. I feel so much more at peace now.