Keeping her occupied and trying to create some sort of routine but also allowing some free time.

I am a grandmother of a 6 year old autistic/ADHD girl. She has lived with us off and on for the past 3 years but we now have legal custody of her since her mom died last November (my daughter). I am really struggling and am in therapy but need all of the support and information that I can get for this new journey that we are on. I feel completely unprepared and unqualified for this. She’s been having lots of tantrums and is not eating well and starting to pull away from me when she doesn’t want to do something that I am asking. I feel like things have gotten worse in the last couple of weeks and I am very fearful for the future. My way to unwind is to go outside and listen to the birds and enjoy nature. I don’t get to do enough of that because now she has an extreme fear of flying bugs and won’t go outside! I also love to read in bed after she has finally fallen asleep at night.