If you're going through a transition in your life right now can you raise your hand? I asked this at my recent live event in London a few weeks ago… And was surprised to see LITERALLY 85 percent of the people in the rooms hands go up Take this as a sign that if you are seeing this email… YOU may be going through a big transition too…(or about to) Here is a few pieces of advice that have made it easier for me 1. It’s okay to not have it all figured out right away… I have been self reflecting on my own next phase of focus… And realized through coaching sessions, meditation and other insights… That what I love is creating content and running live events And yet much of where my energy goes currently is other things… And when I am in the energy of doing what I love…. Magic happens And I love the process! This insight has come from a few months of having NO IDEA where I should be putting my energy And getting in my head to figure it out I SHOULD BE DOING THIS OR THAT…. Etc because someone else is doing it… etc (the comparison trap) And I’ve realized that I can trust the energy more than just the logic and mind who is looking for certainty Give yourself SPACE and TIME to figure it out embrace the unknown and trust that something greater is aligning and forming 2. Fear is not a sign to STOP its a sign you are about to expand your comfort zone and claim a new self image Back in 2017 when I first started making videos on Youtube… I had a ton of FEAR… What would my friends from high school think of my esoteric perspectives? What if I fail and no one ever watches my videos? Am I even worthy to making videos? Why me? Etc And what I realized is through the REPS of making videos… Of EMBRACING that fear… My self image transformed And my confort zone expanded As i put myself out there it became “normal” to do so What used to being me nerves and doubt…(looking into a camera) Became easy the more I did it I have a friend that spent the last 3 months in fear around doing a 30 day challenge of posting on Instagram…

confidence comes when you know who you are and live according to your own chosen values growing up we learn that to be loved, we may need to achieve, to be perfect, to please, to fix, to be agreeable etc we may take on the values of wanting approval and validation at the expense of vulnerability and authenticity all as a trauma response to survive growing up I only received "love" and validation when I was staying in line, when I was agreeable and when I followed the rules I had to abandon my own needs to survive and that left me in old patterns of people pleasing and tuning to others for validation and fighting to PROVE myself to others this led to attracting love dynamics where I would choose people I felt I had to "fix" or hold space for I would choose people who were emotionally unavailable because that felt normal to childhood when them I could feel "safe" in my old stories of proving myself and fixing others (who I projected onto them brokenness) this was all a reflection of a subconscious co-dependent pattern I identified as a FIXER who would come and save the day who needed a perpetrator and victim to either fight against or save for years I had controlling managers and girlfriends I felt NEEDED me who I would try to save the hard thing for me to see through was this... I got a "payoff" from being in this pattern I got to be GOOD and a SUPERMAN like person to someone else I also got to NOT look at my own stuff because everyone else was the problem... the perpetrator was MEAN and the girlfriend was a helpless victim I was too busy in the pattern to see that it kept me distracted from my own stuff I was avoiding looking at myself I was avoiding choosing myself I let guilt and survival mode control me and keep me responsible for others I can also see that these distractions where mechanisms of using CONTROL... if I could fix the girlfriend... I could feel good about myself, she would meet my needs and love me and never leave if I fought for freedom against the controlling person, I could play the same pattern that was alive since childhood... is there even another way to be?

My dear friend and I frequently talk about mouse culture; tangentially, we stumbled across this gem about a recent study involving rats. The study concluded that empathetic behavior is a key element of rat society.

Imagine sending a 3 or 4 year child into the streets of Japan… Through busy crosswalks… Waiting for trains to pass… All the way to a restaurant to pick up some fresh sushi… All by themselves… This is a common thing in Japan and is considered “the first errand” It is an identity shifting experience that changes the self image and belief of the child If you are from the west or other parts of the world… You would think this is CRAZY and bad parenting The boy was reluctant to go out all by himself… to walk through the unknown… Through LOUD streets with GIANT people… But with the encouragement of his parents… He went on his way… And came back to his parents a NEW kid who would never be the same again… A new identity, a new level of confidence and a new ability I was pretty surprised to see this while watching a series called “Becoming YOU” Which follows 100 babies though childhood experiences to become who they are by age 5 Most of the patterns of who we are are set by age 5 Unless we do the inner work, we tend to keep many of these patterns alive most of our lives I am watching this series because I find it helpful in understanding my own inner child As well as identity shifting experiences and how we can use them as adults Also as a result of a recent screen detox and social media detox this is a very light and happy thing to watch I have this paired with re-reading the book Autobiography of a Yogi for the 3rd time High vibe content consumption if you ask me lol (still have cut out unconscious scrolling and more) Lesson for today is to be like that little boy and trust that even when there is reluctance to the unknown… You can trust that the person you will become will be worth it You have it in you to step into new experiences and in the unknown is where ALL magic happens It’s where abundance is… It's where new connections are And it’s where love is You just have to have the courage to choose it! The “known” is full of ALL the stuff you’ve already experienced and you can always go back to it if you want lol

“Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended .... side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it”