I've found myself increasingly frustrated by how many people I love dismiss this work without even trying it. They come to me overwhelmed, dysregulated, and spiralingāpanicking about one thing or another. And when I gently offer a simple 10-minute reset to help clear their minds so we can actually address the issue, the responses are almost always the same: āMaybe later.ā āNot right now.ā āSend me the videoāIāll do it after/when _____.ā And yet⦠they stay in the spiral. For hours. Days. Sometimes weeks. Repeating the same stories, circling the same pain despite any guidance, redirection, or grounding I offer. And somewhere in that loop, thereās this unspoken expectation that Iāll sit there with them in itāthat Iāll co-hold the chaos without them ever reaching for the rope Iām offering. š«āØ And to be clear, that āropeā isnāt just breathwork. Itās anything I offer to help shift them from crisis into something more grounded, more manageable, more clearāa pause, one slow breath, a reframe, a next step, a moment of perspective. They come to me seeking coaching, help, and healing, (for FREE, knowing that it is how i make my living) and then refuse anything that might actually move them out of the spiral. Instead, they stay⦠and expect me to stay with them. And thatās where something in me has started to shift. šš Because I know how powerful this work is. Iāve lived it. Iāve breathed it. Iāve watched it create space where there was once only overwhelm. So to see it consistently resistedārejectedāby people I care about has been painful. Not because they donāt choose it. But because they come begging for relief⦠while refusing the doorway to it. And Iām starting to see more clearly: some people arenāt actually seeking change. Theyāre seeking commiseration. Co-dysregulation. A place to stay exactly where they areājust not alone in it. And thatās an energy I no longer feel attached to. šŖ·āØ Iāve spent time reflecting on why this triggers me so deeply, but I havenāt landed on any big āaha.ā What I have noticed is something quieter, more honestāIām outgrowing the version of me who felt responsible for carrying others through their storms, especially when they wonāt even take a step toward shore.