It’s been a very mixed few days for me. Yes there’s been lots of love and insight and incredible connections. I mean super incredible. As I sit enjoying my coffee, playing hooky (as Elsie Spittle used to say) in the warmth of the Spanish sun , feelings of gratitude light up every cell in my body. And I as I percolate on what I’m hearing, I realise that the gratitude is not just for the feelings I like. But also for the feelings I haven’t been too keen on. The client that cancelled with ill will - that email hurt. Stung for a while. Until I found my humility. And then the ‘honest’ conversation a peer felt they needed to have with me. Old feelings of lack, of being scared, of wanting to defend. Arose and caught in my throat. Again humility restored me. Owning my part without falling on my sword ⚔️ It doesn’t mean those feelings left my body - the cells felt the thinking they came from. But something that’s been present within in me is that ‘this is growth’ this is the edge of what I know, this is the space from which creativity arises. From where I’m called to step into my power in a stronger, more grounded way. This is what it means to be in the unknown. It’s not meant to be comfortable. And then the story of the spider. 🕷️ Barb Patterson, an incredible speaker, entrepreneur and human being, told of the spider who is not born with all the silk thread inside of them. They have to mobilise and move. They first have to mobilise the elements within them to create the chemical changes. They then have to move and physically pull the liquid out of their body to align the molecules into a solid thread. I saw that the painful feelings, the doubt, the insecurity, the imposter syndrome - they are the chemicals that we can use to poison ourselves and shut down. Or we can use to mobilise our unique abilities to turn pain into silk. Once mobilised we then have to move to allow the thread to come out of us. It doesn’t do anything kept inside. In my story that could mean an appropriate response to an email that serves the client and me. An apology to someone who has felt hurt by my behaviour and an opportunity for a reset. A surrender to the feelings without attachment. Not necessarily easy things to do. But from within humility there is no vulnerability.

I’m very proud of @Louise Knighton who has written her first ever business case. She definitely experienced growing pains and uncomfortably but she kept resetting. Asked for support. Asked questions and went again. She even enjoyed it in the end. Here’s her email from last night: “Thank you for your help with this. Initially it was hard but I really enjoyed completing the business case.. 🙂 Louise“ Please join in and send Louise some love 💕

If you’re planning to join a summit this year, here are a couple I'd recommend. And not just because I'm speaking at them or even that they are FREE :) Big shout out to our lovely @Lara Sloan for all the hard work that's gone into these :) 𝗙𝗜𝗥𝗦𝗧: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝗛𝗲𝗮𝗹𝘁𝗵 𝗦𝘂𝗺𝗺𝗶𝘁 - 𝗢𝗰𝘁𝗼𝗯𝗲𝗿 𝟭𝟮 – 𝟭𝟰 𝗢𝗰𝘁​ Explore love, sex, friendship, family and belonging and discover why strong relationships may be essential to living well as we age. For adults 40+ who want to live really well in the years ahead. After a lifetime of unhealthy relationships I found the love of my life fifteen years ago, and it wasn't where I was expecting! Join me in a plot twist that changed everything. 𝗠𝘆 𝘀𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝘀: 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘁𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗵𝗮𝘃𝗲 This isn't relationship advice in the conventional sense. - It's what I learned across a decade of watching people inside UK prisons and addiction recovery communities rebuild trust, first with themselves, before they could rebuild it with anyone else. - It's what I lived through myself coming from a background of trauma, CPTSD and never being able to trust others. - I see the same pattern in the accomplished women I coach now. The relationship that's actually broken usually isn't the one they came to fix. It's the relationship with their own worth and their own genius. Until the relationship with self is repaired, every other relationship - romantic, platonic, professional - quietly inherits the same doubt. If you want intimacy, joy and connection in your relationships, come and join us Join the Relationship Health Summit Community 𝗯𝘁𝘄: 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗼 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝘂𝗻𝗶𝘁𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘀𝘂𝗺𝗺𝗶𝘁 𝘁𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲 - 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝘀 𝗶𝘀 𝗮𝗻 𝗮𝗳𝗳𝗶𝗹𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗸 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗜 𝗺𝗮𝘆 𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗻 𝗮 𝘀𝗺𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗶𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝘂𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝗹 𝗮𝗰𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀 :) ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

Everyone's still very quiet in here. Are we not enjoying the accountability this month, or are we still recovering from summer, or is something else going on? Help me out because I want to be able to support you and post things that are useful to you. If you're not into the accountability this month, that's fine. We'll do something different :)

For many of you this may be the first real day back to work after the holidays - I get it, it was quite an effort to get back into the daily routines last week. So lets start September with a bang. First: Premium members, something new for you ✨ 𝗣𝗿𝗼𝗳𝗶𝘁 𝗣𝗼𝘄𝗲𝗿 𝗛𝗼𝘂𝗿! Listen to the podcast by my mentor Dustin Riechmann and join me daily throughout September at 9:30 for ONE hour of co-working to create the habit of doing the activities that move the needle first thing every day! Link to join me in the Classroom. @Sharon J Crabbe @Lindsey Elliott @Erica Ashton @Lorraine Waudby @Maria Iliffe-Wood @Anne Curtis @Zoe Edwards @Wendy Davey @Raha Hussain-Farnsworth @Anastasia Dobrovolschi Second: All other wonderful members, who's ready for Accountability? I'll post a comment every day if it's helpful 💘