Let’s expose a shadow kink most people never look at: People-pleasing isn’t love. It isn’t kindness. It isn’t generosity. It’s a shadow kink for safety. It’s the unconscious belief: If you’re happy with me, I’m safe. If I over give, I won’t be abandoned. If I dim myself, I won’t be judged. If I prioritize you, I won’t lose you. People-pleasing is the most socially acceptable form of self-abandonment. And the kink of it? It feels like connection…while actually cutting you off from yourself. That’s why it’s so seductive. But baby — here’s the truth: Your power isn’t in being chosen by others. Your power is in choosing yourself. Today’s temptation: Where are you trading respect for approval? Where are you giving more than you have? Where are you abandoning yourself to stay “safe” in someone else’s eyes? Breathe into the answer. This shadow kink loosens it's grip the moment you see it. if you want to learn what shadow kinks are currently creating your reality, drop a comment below and I will send you the assessment to understand which of the 9 shadow kinks you're unconsciously creating from.