Background: First daughter (39) single- no children: After official estrangement in 2021, we are building trust in our relationship as I have been keeping her cat since May 2025. (lives a state away) I am thankful for the turn of events. Second daughter (38) married - no children: There has been no official statement of estrangement. (lives a state away) She is going through a difficult divorce since June. I support long-distance via simple messages and hear nothing back. Third daughter (37) single - no children: We are officially estranged since December 2023. (lives across the country) January 2025 she messaged me she was engaged and only told me the gentleman’s first name. She said they would have the ceremony ‘next year,’ which puts it in 2026. I sent a text last evening with the following words: “Good evening, I am curious about wedding plans possibly happening this year. I would to love to attend and thus make plans to be there. With love and support, Mom” I was a single parent for 11 years after a 10 year marriage to their father. He was emotionally abusive and then other abuse toward them after the divorce. I remarried to a good man whom they were fond of When he passed in 2014, while they were in their late twenties, in hindsight, things began to change as a whole. Then, during the pandemic each began to distance in individual ways and timings. The point of my post: I am currently in the middle of module 2 and journaling as I begin the program. While waiting for a response from the third daughter, whom is engaged, about the possible wedding date, I am shaky at work. All kinds of thoughts of how I failed as a parent are swirling in my head. I request. . . suggestions on ways to keep my nervous system regulated to not be anxious and shaky at work, and to be productive at home and not in bed or on the couch. Thank you~

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