Did your parents ever make a decision you hated that later changed your life?
Many parents who moved a lot as kids want one fixed home for their own children. The intention is love and protection. The tradeoff is that some end up living in a place or job that drains them, while telling themselves it is “for the kids.” There is another version of “home” for a child. Think of a nine-year-old whose parents moved the whole family across Canada for a year, at 9 years old, so the kids could learn English. New city. New school. No English. No friends. Everything familiar is gone at once. From the child’s view, it felt like a punishment. There was no way to understand the decision. The parents could not explain it in a way that landed. Then something shifted. After a few months, classmates started coming over. By the end of the year, that child spoke a new language fluently and did not want to move back. The financial cost was high. The year looked irrational on paper. For years, the kids still did not see how it could possibly be worth it. No new bike this year, ski racing is too expensive - that year cost a lot of money, he was told. Only later, as an adult living and working in an English-speaking world, did the impact become clear. That one seemingly “selfish” choice from the parents created options, income, and a more portable life. Sometimes the most loving choice is the one that gets judged, misunderstood, or resented for a long time. Parents, friends, siblings, and partners often carry that weight. They hold the long view, knowing a choice is unpopular now but needed for the person they care about. My parents had to carry this weight from when I was 9 until I was 21, when I finally said: "Thank you!" Thank you for a second language. Thank you for showing what bravery looks like. Thank you for bringing adventure and travel into childhood. Thank you for modeling what real leadership is. Thank you for choosing what was right over what was easy. Thank you for being willing to be misunderstood for years. Thank you for giving a life that can move, not just a house that stays put.