When was the last time you sat down… and just checked on YOU? Not your kids....Not your responsibilities......Not what needs to get done next. You...... Because a lot of you are moving all day…handling everything…showing up for everybody…And ignoring yourself. You’ll notice when your child is off immediately. But when YOU are off?You push through it. You feel overwhelmed…and keep going. You feel irritated…and keep going. You feel drained…and keep going. And then you wonder why Your patience is short....Your reactions are quick...Your mind feels all over the place It’s because you’re not checking in. Mental health is not just about “fixing problems.” It’s about awareness. How am I feeling right now? What do I need right now? Am I overwhelmed… or just ignoring it? Because if you don’t slow down long enough to notice…it’s going to come out somewhere. In your tone. In your Reaction. In how you show up in your home. And your children will feel it…even if you don’t say a word. So today, pause. Even if it’s for a few minutes. Check in with yourself. Not to judge yourself...Just to be aware. Because you can’t lead your home well…if you’re disconnected from yourself. Let’s talk: When was the last time you actually checked in with YOU?

So I did a things today when my son got attitude with an adult that cause him to get in trouble. So I made him write a verse from the Bible 25 times . And the verse I used was Titus3:1

Let’s get practical. Because a lot of people hear “renew your mind” But nobody really explains HOW. So what happens? You wake up… And the SAME thoughts come back. The same frustration. The same triggers. The same mindset. And now you’re trying to parent… from a mind that was never reset. So let’s break this down simple. 🔥 1. Catch the thought You cannot change what you don’t notice. When your child does something and your mind says: “I’m overwhelmed” “I can’t do this” “they’re too much” STOP. Catch it. 🔥 2. Check the thought Ask yourself: “Is this helping me lead right now?”Because just because you FEEL it…doesn’t mean you should FOLLOW it. 🔥 3. Replace the thought You don’t just remove it… you replace it. Instead of “I can’t do this” You say “God gave me this child, so I CAN do this.” Instead of “They’re too much” You say “I just need a better system.” Instead of “I’m overwhelmed” You say “I need a reset, not a breakdown.” 🔥 4. Move differently Because real change is not just thinking…it’s ACTION. You don’t just say “I’m going to be patient.” You lower your tone You shorten your words If you don’t control your thoughts…your thoughts will control your home. Because how you THINK…is how you respond. And how you respond… is how your home is built. So no… this isn’t about being perfect.This is about being intentional with your thoughts, your words and your actions Because your children don’t just need correction… they need a parent who is mentally disciplined. Let’s talk: What is ONE thought you struggle with daily as a parent?

Todays has been overwhelming. I received a call from the school letting me know that my son has been suspended from the bus again, making this the fourth incident. They showed grace by choosing not to remove him from the bus for the remainder of the school year. Instead, they decided on a 15-day suspension, considering my current circumstances with limited transportation and financial challenges getting him back and forth. The school has already put several plans of action in place, and I have truly been trying, praying, but it just feels like nothing is working right now. Not sure what I am needing.

Some of you are not just tired…you’re bound. Bound to your past. Bound to what happened to you. Bound to old pain, old labels, old versions of yourself. And you’re still showing up every day…parenting…working…functioning… But internally?.......... you’re still in it. This reminds me of Book of John 11… When Lazarus was in the tomb. Dead.Wrapped.Buried. And Jesus stood there and said “Lazarus, come forth.” Lazarus was already alive when he came out…...but he was still wrapped. And that’s where a lot of parents are. You’re alive. You love God. You’re showing up. But you’re still wrapped in trauma wrapped in guilt wrapped in shame wrapped in what happened to you So even though you’re out… you’re not FREE..... And then Jesus said something amazing He said “Loose him, and let him go.” That means: The coming out was one step…But the UNWRAPPING was another. So Kingdom Parents..........What are you still wrapped in? Because you can’t fully show up for your children… while you’re still bound to your past. This week isn’t just about mental health…it’s about FREEDOM. And I’m calling you out of it. Not gently. Not when you “feel ready.” NOW. Come out of the guilt. Come out of the shame. Come out of the identity that says “this is just who I am.” Because you’re not who you were. And your children don’t need a perfect parent… they need a FREE one. If you’re ready to come out of it… Comment: “I’m coming out.”