YOU ARE PRECIOUS. Before your start to deny it and scroll away. Just take 3 minutes and fucking read this please. Last Friday I got news that a friend of 30 plus years passed as a result of his own hand. I won’t get into the grim details. Last Saturday morning I got news that another friend of 25 plus years passed from complications of something that could have been managed by diet and movement. (And I know it is always deeper than that). He struggled for a long time with his relationship to food. Could that be the results of his own hand… consciously or unconsciously? Maybe. Regardless, a man in stuggle is a man in struggle. Struggle can always use support. Last Saturday afternoon I got news that another friend in his 30s. Passed as a result of a self inflicted gun wound. They were: All men. All hurting. 3 men I know. All talented. All brilliant. All loaded with potential. All beautiful souls. All have people who are wondering “what the fuck? How could this happen?” I am supporting a LOT of people. It doesn’t matter. I will make time. I still make space when people need deep help, in real time. Walking people off of ledges… Literally and figuratively. 18 months ago one of my closest friends ended his life. He knew I could support him. Yet he didn’t want to “bother” me. If you are worried about being a bother… that’s fine. Be a bother. And ask someone for help anyway. Be embarassed and ask for help anyway. ASK FOR FUCKING HELP. You are precious. Yes YOU, a man. You are precious. It is not a weaknes. You are precious. Not just to your mother. YOU ARE PRECIOUS period. You are important. Like the ring to Golum precious. Seeiously. If you are a man who is in distress right now…. Fucking bother someone. Please. Be honest and tell them all the depths. If you are a man who knows a man who you think is in distress… -Givng all his shit away -Speaking despair languge -Giving up -Isolating -Binge eating -Not eating at all Please… ask questions… even if you think you are “bothering them”, ask questions.

When you are in the strategy phase of the Man OS, what strategies do you use for goal setting? I recently learned about SMART goals and it make a lot of sense to me. - S – Specific - Clear and well-defined. You know exactly what you’re aiming for. - - M – Measurable - You can track it with numbers or clear criteria. Progress is visible. - - A – Achievable - (sometimes Attainable)Realistic given your resources, time, and current capacity. - - R – Relevant - It actually matters to your life, values, or bigger vision. - - T – Time-bound - There’s a deadline or timeframe that creates focus and momentum. Is this something that would be helpful?

Today I'd love to give a shoutout to @Rhys Hall for coming to last night's ManOS call even when he was experiencing resistance. He showed up anyways. This is what The Expanse is all about. No one shamed him for being late, we were simply grateful he came. Presence over Performance. That's what this container is all about. We don't need you to be at the 'top of your game' we don't need you to 'have your shit together', we don't need you to 'be on your A game' we welcome you as you are. Thanks Rhys for showing up glad you were able to get the support and be seen. What is something you can acknowledge yourself for today? I'll start.

The recorded call from tonight about The Expanse and ManOS. We discussed what it is that we're building here with The Expanse, the role that the ManOS Operating System plays in it, and even had some guided Journaling prompts to expand the Awareness space. For those that didn't get a chance to join live....enjoy the replay!

Shout out to @Ramon Sandoval Jr, @Mark Grainger, @Austin McLeod, @Quentin Seth Jr & @Russell Faucette for the courage and curiosity to join the Expanse. Feel free to drop a post introducing yourselves, look at some of the shares in the community thread from the last week, or go watch our recorded call from last Tuesday (there's a great guided journal practice in there). Grateful to have y'all in here. Let's grow!!