Healthy deep relationships need to be based on balanced reciprocity of respect emotional connection understanding and empathy without it the relationship is not a true partnership. It is where both unite to one for the common goal of the union. It's two fully complete individuals that have created a committed bond to navigate experiences as a united team. It's condition judgment and expectation free without hidden agendas or one sided gains. It's honest forgiving consistent supportive and dependable. Being a person who has endured trauma loss and forced to not be myself all my life. I wanted to be raw and allow myself to open up but has I allowed my masking (I have autism) to come off and relax my partner said it was too much emotion and to figure things out myself. I was told to make my own decisions and stop asking them for feedback on everything. My clarifying questions were taken as labeling and argumentative but that is how autistic minds gain understanding not to judge but to comprehend. After spending the whole year listening to one another, supporting our healing physically, emotionally, sexually, spiritually, and mentally, we both gained strength and empowerment. Suddenly they forgot the partnership helped us. When I needed the exchange to be evenly reciprocity it was met with a me vs them storyline. The story changed from how much I brought to them and awakened them to how I had been draining them and disturbing their peace. It was no longer a partnership but now conditional and surface level. Relationships are not always easy, beautiful, convenient, or all clear paths but if they are honest, open, supportive, and loving they are a safe haven of growth, stability, acceptance, forgiveness, and room to heal each other and self. Feminine and masculine energy are held by both partners but awareness matters as to the healing and acceptance and ownership of wounds that could injure self or the other partner. Feminine loving creative energy is nurturing while masculine fierce acting energy is protective. The masculine must first take ownership and awareness that the feminine is protected from their fierceness. The feminine must maintain boundaries and standards that the nurturing is reciprocated and honored.