@Nancy Grosso Thanks for writing back. I'm new here and just learning myself. So that's from an AI assessment I did at https://adhdharmony.com and it gives me a little more. I told it pretty much what you posted so it's nice to know we're not alone and I agree it's not uncommon at all! I've not conquered it but am working on it. The assessment summarized what I posted and adds a little more detail and gives me a few things to think about which is good. It also says "they're not contradictions - they're two halves of the same neurological hiccup." My inattentive just hit the highlights the first time, but reading a little deeper and thinking about it from my experience, I think they're both ways of protecting myself. For me, I've got a lot of fear of failure, of saying or doing the wrong thing, etc., so I think the me who sees it in my head is protecting me by giving me encouragement, pointing out that I can and often want to do all the things. The me that stops is protecting myself from failure and disappointment, which we all have, but I think it hits different with ADHD and becomes a big mountain that seems insurmountable. The AI assessment for me added this: That pattern isn't a flaw. It has a function. It ends the painful uncertainty of maybe I'll fail again by choosing the failure now, on your own terms. Being mentally elsewhere protects you from the disappointment of being present and still falling short. Your brain isn't sabotaging you. It's shielding you from one more letdown. The problem is the shield now costs more than the risk it's guarding against. As I said I'm still learning how to use this site and haven't built that bridge but hopefully more understanding can help us both!