Dear Heather, I’m looking at your message and tears are streaming down my face, but they are tears of happiness. Two days ago, I held a little Día de los Muertos celebration for my loved ones. I decorated the apartment, put candles everywhere, on the balcony and in Gašper’s room. I felt so much gratitude and happiness, almost as if he were right there with me. I felt a deep sense of peace. Then Asia called and told me your message — that you had helped Gašper cross over. I was overwhelmed with happiness. I had been worried about him. I had this feeling that he was confused, that he didn’t quite know where he was. And now, after hearing what you told her, I understand something I hadn’t fully understood before: his guilt. Let me explain a little about our lives, because I think it will help you understand why this means so much to me. Gašper lived with me from the day he was born until he was twelve. do I have to send him home every week? He had to swap places during the divorce. His father and I were together for 6 years, and after our divorce I spent six years fighting for custody. His father kept taking him away and fighting me in court. Eventually, I managed to bring Gašper back to Croatia, transfer the court proceedings from Slovenia to Croatia, and win custody. Despite everything, I always allowed Gašper to see his father. He visited him every other weekend. When Gašper was twelve, he decided to move to Slovenia to live with his father. School and the language were easier for him there, and it also meant that I could finally focus on my health. I was very ill with multiple sclerosis. I had lost my ability to speak and walk, and I had to learn both all over again. Gašper continued to visit me throughout that time. He saw me learning to speak, walk and become independent again. His friends later told me how much he admired me and how I had been an inspiration to him. His father, meanwhile, wanted to have two women in his life at the same time. Gašper grew up in that complicated family situation, living on and off with his father, the two women and their children. His younger half-brother was born from that arrangement.