A recent experience/moment of self discovery. Any and all advice welcome
Hey everyone, this is a rather long one, so if anyone does make it through to the end, a big thank you for taking the time to read through this. This one is hard to share. Here goes. I was at a festival recently with a bunch of friends. It was our first big one together, and we all had an amazing, bonding experience. It felt as though our friendship grew as a result of all our experiences together, and that our bond has now become sealed into cement -- into eternity if you will. At this festival, we ended up hanging out throughout with our camping neighbours, and brought them into our reality. My interpretation of this looking back was that they were so attracted to our vibe that they felt compelled to drawn to us, and ended up having a great time with us. In my mind, that then created a bond with them too that I believe was a strong one. I ended up growing close with both of them, but particularly one of the girls. Long story short: this girl was someone a friend of mine has had a crush on for a while, and so I didn't allow myself to even open up the possibility of her and me being together, however, over the course of the three days, my friends kept pushing this idea onto me that her and I work well together, and asked me "why I wasn't making a move?" The reality being: I wouldn't pursue anything with her without first having a chat whit my friend about it first. That was my reasoning. After coming back from the festival, I began to allow my mind to wander and explore this possibility of me and this girl being together, and felt my energy shift towards a less grounded, less in my own frame one, to an almost needy, "willing for this to happen" one. Already being in a vulnerable state dealing with the afterglow of the festival -- or post festival "blues," if you will, I pursued this channel briefly, speaking to her on and off, with the potential of us meeting up again. The response I have got is a cold one. There is next to nothing I am getting back from this girl now that we are back in "reality" -- the festival being an "escape," and thus I have started to feel as though I fucked up, and have lost an opportunity. This comes from a variety of my past experiences where I have met someone that has blown me away, and I have pursued them with a state of full vulnerability and no thought for my own well being, and been "burned" as a result.