@Nicole Evans For me, I am quick to all or nothing thinking. So in the past I have felt a need to, metaphorically, throw gas on the fire to ensure everyone can see my fire (flame energy). Flames can be good, to get attention, to give someone heat. But for me, always being in flame mode meant I had to work hard to put out the flames or other aspects of my life would catch like the spread of a forest fire. Recently, I did a fire ritual where I burnt something. But in watching the flames die down, I noticed the embers. Beautiful and calm, still burning but without so much fierceness and need for attention. Now, I dont need to add so much to my fire to have the same burning effect. Instead of adding gas to make flames with my fire, I sit and stoke the embers. Trusting that fire is still there when I need it. I hope that clarifies. It's been helpful for me to switch from hyperactivity of the masculine do do do and into the tending and caring feminine fire energy.