We often hear the word “healing” a lot but do we really even understand what this means? I think a lot of times when people hear the healing they assume crying & reliving your trauma but it's not. People often times say that healing is very ugly & difficult & it can be but it's also a really beautiful thing. It should not make you suffer. Yes, in the beginning, it is very true that you have to walk through & understand yourself but continuing to sit there crying & cycling through your trauma is not the definition of healing. This is the definition of re-traumatizing yourself. Healing is the creation of new patterns. We have to heal ourselves because somewhere in our life we experienced a trauma or multiple. There are a lot of different types of trauma. It's not really a matter of how mild or how much worse it is from another person's trauma. Regardless it is still very traumatic & it affects us deeply if it is the only thing that we have ever known. There are so many broken people in the world that walk around thinking that there's nothing wrong with them. The truth is that many people speak very negatively to themselves & some of them are even horrible & abusive to those around them simply because they are hurting & they're not acknowledging it. They don't even realize how much they are hurting because they are numbing themselves from understanding. They would rather take the pain out on other people, even people that they don't know versus looking at it & understanding why that behavior exists. Some people will even make their pain into a joke to dull how incredibly horrible they feel. These are all signs that you have healing work to do even if you don't think you do. One of the first steps to healing is acknowledging the trauma that you experienced. You have to acknowledge that it is affecting you & not just brush it off because others may have it worse. There are so many people that need to heal & so many of them don't realize it & they don't want to acknowledge it. They are comfortable being in pain because it's the only thing they've ever known.