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Apr 28 •
ADHD and honesty - 🎉Hooray new content!🎉
➡️ Find our newest video on ADHD and honesty here! ⬅️ Sam and Ian went for a walk in the hills above Encinitas — very California 😎 — and ended up having one of their more honest conversations. Which felt appropriate, given the topic; honesty. Honesty in two kinds - the tricky ADHD kind where you say "yes I'll have that report to you by Friday" and fully believe when you say it. And the even harder kind; honesty with yourself. About where you actually are, what you actually have capacity for, how long things actually take, and why the gap between your intentions and your actions keeps showing up in ways that confuse and exhaust the people around you — and you. For us, its the most important thing to get right. If you have ADHD and you don't understand your relationship with honesty, everything else you try to build, the systems, the plans, the goals, the relationships, will sit on an unstable foundation. Put it on, podcast style, while you're driving, cooking, folding laundry, or doing anything else that keeps your hands busy but leaves your ears free. Don't feel bad about the multi-tasking, for a lot of ADHD brains, it's actually the optimal listening condition. Or if a 25-minute video feels like too much of a commitment right now, we've chopped it into five-minute segments that you can drop in and out of. Same conversation, smaller bites. Start anywhere. [link here.]
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great video and message, Sam and Ian! Here is another take on honesty that has recently gotten me in trouble with my family: I can be so honest that I blurt out what I think or feel without regard for how it will land with the other person, and my son, in this incident, didn't take it very well. This past weekend, the plan was to meet my family and go berry picking. i was so looking forward to this first time with my son and his 1 and a half year old daughter. But when I arrived, I didn't feel aligned with the place he chose and I immediately reacted. The first words out of my mouth were, "this place sucks!" I wish I could take those words back. But instead I went on about how it wasn't good enough, the atmosphere and energy was negative, it was too dusty, too close to the noisy freeway and not organic, all the things that are important.... to me. I find that I can come off as being very rigid about what I'm comfortable with or I have a vision of perfection that reality can never match and I get disappointed and then my energy can have a negative affect on others. This time it really hurt my son because his wife and mother in law also ganged up on him for choosing this place and he felt defeated. All thanks to his mom! He later told me he was really looking forward to sharing this day with his daughter, his wife and her parents, and me because he had such fond memories from when he was very young and he pricked his finger on a blackberry thorn while tasting the sweetness of the berries, a moment that stayed with him over 30 years....and I ruined it for him! I felt devastated and it has taken me days to recover. Sometimes being overly honest and blurting out what I think without a filter gets me in trouble, as well as painting a rosy picture of reality, or overpromising and saying Yes when I'm really not sure. Thanks for reading :).
Apr 23 •
Dislike working from home
Hi, I love to work in coffee shops, I think I need the hustle and bustle around me to settle my nervous system so I can concentrate and get my work done. I really don't like working from my home. Will you have any meetups in local coffee shops where we can co-work together?
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@Sam Slater Hi Sam, I got a lot done yesterday, thank you! so today is kinda chill. I live in Carlsbad but I like to go up and down the coast from La Jolla to Oceanside and find fun places to do my work. It satisfies my wanderlust 😎
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