If you could only share one tool, piece of advice, idea, quote, practice, action… that you believe would shift people’s experience of life for the better, what would it be? I know it might be tricky but only share one!

Hi all! My name is Clay Gill. I’m 38 years old and live in a small town in North Carolina in the foothills of the Blue Ridge Mountains (just moved here 4 weeks ago actually with my wife and two kids). I have 8 years of coaching under my belt (6 years part-time and 2 years full-time from 2011-2019) yet I never went for any kind of certification/accreditation before. It’s time to change that so I can prove that my skills and my clients’ transformations are more than just self-reported! I’m working on building a business centered on coaching, community, and challenges that helps people achieve their goals/dreams by eliminating excuses, dismantling doubts, and gameifying their growth! The name of the business is Work Your But Off - and that’s no typo! Everyone has a big but…and my goal is to help them get beyond it! 😜 Excited to be here to learn, play, contribute, and create and awesome community of support and encouragement! LET’S GOOOOOO!!! 🚀 P.S. I’m very active on LinkedIn and would love to connect with any of you there. Here’s my profile link: https://www.linkedin.com/in/clay-gill

I thought I had found it. I wanted to coach on something that I knew, and I wanted to find a population that would not only benefit from my experience, but one that would also provide a lucrative business model. My first thought was “Business Executives”. After all, they need what I have to teach, AND they generally have the financial wherewithal to pay for my coaching….Still, I didn’t feel quite connected to that world. I’ve never owned a business, apart from being a “sole proprietor” private practice psychotherapist for the past 35 years. I’ve certainly worked with (and coached) my share of “exec’s”, but something about that population was missing for me…As I was driving home from seeing friends this afternoon, it dawned on me. The question I asked myself was “what group of people do I know the best?” The answer immediately came to mind. In my earlier years, I was a Los Angeles Police Officer, and then Police Sergeant. I had to leave that line of work due to serious injuries I received on the job. But it’s a career that, although you leave IT, it never leaves YOU. I’ve had countless individual cops I’m my practice over the years, and provided Critical Incident Debriefing’s for many large police groups….i know them well. They afford me a level of trust, due to my experience. Bingo! My Niche is Police Departments (both domestic and international), coaching/ teaching their employees what I’ve ALWAYS taught! The take away here…Be Connected to Who and How you want to Coach. It took me a while, and some introspection, but it came to me…it will come to you.

I'm working closely with a relative on a project, and while we generally get along, her tone of voice when discussing our work often sounds dominating, aggressive, and authoritative. This tone feels forceful and anxious, sometimes seeming accusatory, which I find triggering. Despite addressing this issue with her multiple times, it has led to heated arguments. I struggle to manage my reactions, as her tone frequently frustrates me and can even provoke anger or rage. I try to remain silent in these situations to avoid conflict, but this often feels like repression rather than a genuine resolution. When I do speak up, I'm concerned that my own frustration and irritation come through, exacerbating the issue. I need guidance on how to better handle my emotional response and communicate more effectively.

What have you allowed another to do for you this week ,( without any ifs and buts or thats ok's.. or I got it, i'll handle it or deflected compliment) How have you graciously received so that the others can be gracious fearless givers?