Your Teen Son Ignores Your Advice But Listens to Strangers. Here’s Why.
This week's video and theme sheds light on why teenagers seem immune to parental advice even when it's perfectly sound, reasonable, straight talk. What follows below is not a summary of the whole video, but the first in a series of daily posts that untangle this phenomenon. ---------------------------------------------------------- During adolescence, the brain undergoes major remodeling, especially in areas tied to reward, identity, and social evaluation (e.g., prefrontal cortex vs. limbic system balance). This creates a few predictable shifts... an increased sensitivity to status and social hierarchy, stronger drive for autonomy and separation, as well as a heightened emotional reactivity to parents specifically. Adolescence is fundamentally about answering “who am I, separate from my parents?”. And this is most easily done by disagreeing with your parents, discounting their worldview, and re-evaluating everything externally. If teens blindly accepted parental advice, identity formation would stall 😉 Makes sense, right? Tomorrow I will go into some more detail of this phenomenon at play, including how parents can say things so the message lands without triggering shutdown or pushback. Here's the video