@MJ Berst 's note yesterday reminded me of a running joke in our family about getting older. When my oldest son was a kid and first met my husband he asked him, what are you, like 30? (he was 34 at the time) since that time that son got to have that experience also, where a kid was questioning him about his age as though 30 was way over the hill. And I remember when my circle of friends was turning 30 I had bought an over the hill tee shirt and we would pass it from one to the next as they had their birthday. I am perhaps feeling sentimental because today is my middle son's birthday - I find it hard to wrap my mind around him being 29. I am feeling the whole age thing to be rather surreal at this point in my life - like looking at a Dali painting 🔥🌺🌻🍀🧩🍀🌻🌺🔥 Welcome to the party @Mona Weathers who asked these questions in a note over on Substack... Dear Seasoned Substackers, I’m new here and want to learn how to use this platform the best way possible. I would like to know some of the best tips and unspoken “etiquette rules” for the platform. All platforms have them, and I’m not saying I will follow them, but I’d like to know if they exist. Some questions I have: Is posting notes multiple times a day a thing people do here? YES! 3x's a day is the sweet spot but at least once a day will keep you moving. You can access the #🗓️Make Notes Easier - Scheduling Notes Visibility Blueprint - which will help you a lot with a strategy for posting notes over there - the single best thing you can do as far as notes goes? Drop your links both here and in Client Acquisition for Coaches for boost - every day and then interact with others. Do followers really mean anything? YES! they mean that they are people who are interested in what you have to say but not quite committed to having your content in their email box. Usually, you will have twice as many followers as subscribers. I like to explain it like this - your notes are the doorway, chats are the hallway and articles/lives are the living room - followers are people who stop by but don't really want to spend a lot of time in your Livingroom yet.

Yesterday I had a really good conversation with David McIlroy on my podcast - the You World Order Showcase - He's a best seller over on Substack with over 33,000 followers. We talked about vulnerability which might sound like an odd topic for Substack - but when it comes to notes and content it's one of the most important pieces to get nailed down. There is a fine line between oversharing and being vulnerable. And the difference will cost you. The thing that it costs you is confidence. Not your confidence - but others confidence in you. Being vulnerable, in the world today, often shows up as being you, having your own opinions and letting others have theirs - that last bit - super important. As human beings we like to have our positions validated so it's often difficult to just state where you stand on things - but in doing so you pull your people towards you. I have to say that as a person who has always leaned toward people pleasing it's hard for me to take rejection - it always feels personal, so I get the allure of being vanilla. Though saging (as @Karen Langston puts it) has allowed me to care less about what people think about me on a personal level and more about helping them move towards stepping into the spotlight themselves. Which is where notes comes into the picture. The most powerful notes aren't notes that cause controversy but notes that allow people to feel aligned to something. I have note right now circulating around that has 16,000 likes, 771 comments and 1.7K restacks - it's brought in 255 new subscribers. I've had other notes go viral too and sometimes they go viral at the same time. You all have had notes go viral too - @Soph Newman 's spectacular one and @Evelyn Beatrice Bourne had one go crazy (I know they've had others - but I saw these go viral)

We will be live at 2pm mtn here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82173053137?pwd=LvWmj0jftv7dmZv7xB0lKcaarU1YHs.1&jst=2 with @Rasheed Hooda who will be sharing about monetizing your own brand of weird.

Love that it is still dark at 6am here. Something about drinking coffee with a candle for light that really makes my day feel special. I don't know if it's just me so I'm going to throw this out here - are you all feeling an energy shift right now? Not really looking to label it as I'm not sure how to label it - things feel different to me - not good or bad just not settled. Anyone else feeling this or have some insight around this? 🪻🍀🌺🔥🌺🍀🪻 Today is the weekly Q&A/Social Hour - we start at 1pm mtn - here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82141442688?pwd=xJ9W2bYfTXnBptWKuoOgEH4P2enq6p.1 come for 5 minutes or come for the hour. Tomorrow we will be enjoying the wisdom of @Rasheed Hooda who will be sharing a workshop with us on Monetizing Your Weird - Rasheed has a great backstory and I personally am really looking forward to this. Join us at 2pm mtn here: https://us06web.zoom.us/j/82173053137?pwd=LvWmj0jftv7dmZv7xB0lKcaarU1YHs.1&jst=2 Tuesday September 22nd at noon mtn we will be hosting the Substack Setup Intensive LIVE. Whether you've been on Substack a minute or are just starting out this is a great opportunity to dial in your publication so that the visibility you create by boosting your content over there leads to free and paid subscribers. Learn More here or upgrade here #🎯START HERE (you don't have to wait until Tuesday - you can jump right in today and watch the replays and go through the set up guides so that when we are live you have the ground work done and can really take advantage of asking me questions. 🪻🍀🌺🔥🌺🍀🪻 Post your links to notes, chats, lives and articles for boosting here - we will like, restack and comment where appropriate

Is it way TOO quiet these days? Where are the LIVES?