- Every week, I’ll be posting some kind of challenge or two to try for the week. You will learn lots of tools in this group that can support your recovery! Some may be familiar, some may be completely new. I encourage to at least try everything once or twice. Whatever works for you, whatever tools you enjoy, embrace them, use them as a catalyst on your journey. Whatever doesn’t work, or doesn’t align with your journey at this time, let it go, you can always come back and try it again another time. Now for the challenge… This week, take a day or more to check in with your feelings consistently. Set an alarm, hourly, and check in with yourself. The format for this is simple. Ask yourself, “How do I feel?” Give yourself a moment to answer. Then ask, “What do I need?” For example, I might do a check in and realize I feel thirsty and need a glass of water. I can take care of this need immediately. Or it might be that I feel angry about the way someone just treated me and I need to feel loved and validated. I can take a few moments to put my hand on my heart and send myself some loving, positive messages. If you’re not able to take care of your need right away due to other obligations, make a plan for taking care of it later. For example, if you feel tired and need to take a nap, you may not be able to do that at work. But you could either do 5 minutes of deep breathing or a short meditation, or make a plan to go to bed earlier tonight, to honor your need. The goal with this practice is to create an experience of feeling more held and validated by yourself throughout the day. If we have unmet needs and feelings that go neglected, they can start to simmer under the surface of our conscious mind, and we can find ourselves needing to turn to our substance of choice in order to deal with the discomfort of those unmet needs, and to feel comfortable or safe or held. We can start to use this practice to create a sense of safety and validation throughout the day.