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May '24 •
I need your help, please 🙏🏾
Hello my amazing family, I hope this message finds you well. Please I need your help on something that hold me back from success… My name is Bidenam Lamboni and I am a bilingual French - English branding strategist, marketing and social media specialist with up to 3 years of experience in marketing and social media management and with up to 1 year in branding. I live in Fayetteville, North Carolina, USA. I have been in USA for 3 years (yes all my experiences I have them here) but one thing hold me back and it is “My English Accent”! I am originally from “Togo” in “West Africa” and my primary language is French. I am good at English but I think not as good as I should because, because of my accent, people are like not getting what I sometimes say and that is a big frustration for me. Because of that, I don’t even want to let people know that I am specialized in something and when people discovered that from the few clients I had, they asked me why I don’t talk about my expertises but I never have the courage to express my fear. Some people, when they realize that I have an accent, they automatically judge my work according to that(they suppose that I can’t help them). I even took 1 whole year for taking ESL (English as a second Language) courses but nothing. Finally, I don’t know what to do. I am asking myself if I have to look for a “French market” or what to do? This is a very problem for me because sometimes, I am telling myself that maybe it’s because I don’t have the good competences and because of that, I am stressing myself taking new competences but nothing is changing. I blessed my Lord when I discovered this group. When I saw people encouraging others, when I saw people saying their vulnerabilities, I automatically knew that I am where I was supposed to be. Thank you Mentor @Ed J C Smith for what you did. Sorry for my long message but I had to do that to be delivered totally for this thought or thing which is destroying my life. Because actually I don’t do anything!!! No clients and that affect my couple. Only my husband is actually bringing money at home and we are sleeping on debts.
3 likes • May '24
Hello Bidenam. Stigma is a terrible thing. Your written English is fantastic. I would love to hear your accent, I have a feeling that it sounds great. Having said that If you really want to change your accent I can help you. DM me and we can figure this out together.
Mar '24 •
Who are you? When no one is watching...
Are you doing the work when no one is watching? What do you do when no one is watching?
4 likes • May '24
This is a great question. And the answer to it sits at the heart of ethics, morality and determines who you truly are. The mark of a man is who he is when no one is watching. I was once asked by a friend struggling with internal conflict, "how do you know you are a good person". I answered that, a bad person by nature wont ask the question. So the fact that he was asking the question meant that, at the very least he wanted to be a good person. This question is in a similar vein. Just by being aware of the importance of this type of question we tend toward the Good. So it is more likely that the person you are when you are alone is more or less congruent with the public version.
Apr '24 •
UNPOPULAR OPINION!!! 🔥 do you demonise negative feelings? 🤕
You need to feel emotions…. The array of them To develop To grow Get stuck in them…?. HELL NO 😉 But feel them… What are they teaching you? ❤️
4 likes • Apr '24
@Dani Griff This is hard question. I suppose you have to stop "inserting the concept". Start by asking yourself, "what/who do I want to be?" From there aim at being that. What you will find is that if you are honest, and honestly working toward what/who you want to be, then what other people say about and to you have very little impact. You will also find that the negative self talk becomes less and less influential.
2 likes • Apr '24
@Crystal Jones The wolf that wins is the one you feed.
Apr '24 •
Feedback on Niche please
Hello coach friends/ @Ed JC Smith , I am posting my niche here. Would appreciate some feedback! Many thanks 🫶 EDITED! Peaceful Parenting: I help frustrated parents better navigate their child’s behaviour and outbursts to have a better rapport with your child by: 1. Understanding root causes and triggers (home and school) 2. Implementing effective strategies to de escalate behaviour 3. Effective strategies for parent self care
2 likes • Apr '24
@Shama Sher you are right about that. I have decided that my Niche will be to help parents that have children with special needs. What I have found is that, parents in general have this thing where they have a vision for what they want their child to be, and then they focus their energy into molding the child to fit that vision. When the child is unable of uninterested in that fitting into that vision, the parent has major issues with it. This is why I feel that parents in general need to focus on their own mental health so that the they can recognize the pattern of behaviour for what it is... Low level (sometimes extreme) narcissism. The child is not an extension of the parent, nor a second chance, an opportunity for vicarious living. The child is their own person, and the job of the parent is to be a solid base for the child to land safely on when they throw themselves into the world. The child needs to find their own thing, and place in the world and the job of the parent is to give them the best chance to do that. Parents also need to understand that parenting is a skill. For some there is a bit of natural affinity due to their own mindset and personality traits. But is is a skill that can be learned. And like all skills, the best way to learn is from a competent teacher. Yes you can do it on your own but a little help goes a long way
1 like • Apr '24
@Shama Sher Collaboration is the key to success in this business Lets connect in DM and take it from there
Apr '24 •
Someone ever heard about DISC PERSONALITY TEST ?
I did the test on myself and found it very helpful in working on my traits, it provides a lot of information and advice to work with
1 like • Apr '24
@Dr. Tammy Stapp Any one that is interested in truly understand personality will prefer the deep dive approach of conversations over time and will view the personality test as a short cut. A dangerous one when dealing with the extremes. But as a tool to help in a general manner its does offer low resolution understanding. I am not a fan either because I feel its usage has become lazy thinking. I say do the work properly and make sure your motivations are in line with what these tests are able to achieve. When dealing with anything that tries to filter something as complex as personality into boxes you have to be careful with the extremes, and you have to make allowances for divergency. The personality tests can only do that if the person doing the testing is well trained and informed of the deficiencies in how they work practically. The best way to thing do it is this: If you want at a broad low resolution analysis with generalized practical applications its a good place to start. If you want a proper deep analysis with proper practical utility, you need to keep going deeper and involve multiple levels of analysis.
2 likes • Apr '24
@Tola Ayeni This is partly what my issue is. Most of what the testing has become is giving people labels. What you describe is what I would call correct usage of the systems. But you are fast become an extinct species in this conversation. Please Keep up the good work. we need more people like you. When i talk about outliers. I'm talk about the people that don't fit any of the boxes neatly, or fit all of them depending on the questions, This is what happens to me. There is also the fact that for a lot of people there is a huge disconnect between what they truly believe/think to what the say/do... But I am also talking about proper anti social people, and Extreme narcissists, and people with mental disorders, people with mythomania for example. I am not talking only about the run of the mill eccentrics like me. Because of the nature of Social Media more there is a marked increase in particularly Narcissism and these tests are not equipped to ferret this out. But like I keep saying throughout this chat, these tests are tools and the offer a great Segway into the conversation. Its just too low resolution for deep understanding.
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Hi, I'm Noel Daniels, a former Hospitality Manager. I'm passionate about helping people achieve their personal and professional goals.
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