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MISUNDERSTANDING? Or the subejectivity of value
I planned this as a community. It was a thing to do for others, and that's maybe where I have fallen short.
My idea was "response based" - it's the only thing I have space for at this point in time.
I have dealt with multitude of issues and situations that I've put myself into, learned a variety of facts, approaches and solutions. I also have met a great amount of different indivduals that I've studied and dedicated 7 years of my life to studying and working in exactly this. I had a one-woman business for self-developement, and I left when there was time for a shift (a little later than that actually, that was painful, haha) not because lack of success. That is an important fact.
I was living very comfortably off of the knowledge I've earned and the programmes I did. I loved doing it, but I needed to move towards me even more (sailing) - and since that was what I was teaching and preaching, I did it. Eventualy. Left my high income area that I build a name and a bit of legacy in certain circles and left it for the unknown, to build again. Something else. It was very uncomfortable for me to leave my life of what I considered to be a great security, but to pursue ones existence is an inevitable path, if you don't want to suffer. And eventually - be happy, be you.
Why I am saying this - I started this SKOOL as a side project, for people in need or desire of some of the information I gathered and possibly some personal push - in times I had zero money, zero direction, was lost and despreately wanted to be found - I wished for a person like that in my life, so I can get help in acquiring the nessesary propulsion for me going forward. At least a little. And all I saw was mostly scammers, that were repeating information of one another and they couldn't comprehend those. And when there was someone truly skilled or talented (I've seen 2 in my life, maybe 5 with wider circle), they were insanely pricey for me (talking 2000USD or more).
I felt lost. I felt that if I didn't get the help, I will never get over myself and do what I want or at least make those 2000USD to afford that person I wanted to work with, because those two are very closely related. It was a circle for my troubled mind. Also bullshit, but that's what I felt at that time.
So I decided to do this SKOOL, to be that opportunity for other people. I remember the words of my dear friend at one point in life - "Don't do anything for free, for your value is priceless, but people won't value it without a price tag." She basically told me to charge for everything all the time, and it is true, that I had the worst results in progress with charity clients.
But I wanted to try it again - remembering having no access to anyone who could offer me such a thing that I thought I needed. I did it for that - but mind you - it was my business for years. And a prosperous one to say at least. I know this means nothing to you, because you were not there, but I'd like to add it as a contextual information, for you know I am not trying to actively build a community around me here. I act as a open library with a voice, that currently has an "open door" policy, but I won't push a book into your hands. So waiting for me to "show something" is not appliable here.
So, since I am doing it free of cost - I don't have extra energy to create the questions for you. Because each person is different and they're going through different things. It's very hard in self-development because it's not a cookie cutter, like learning to play a piano for example - so that's why I wanted a community, so we can discuss. But I can't be the propelling power for anyone else. No-one can.
I am glad I can answer your questions and inputs - and it fills me with joy. I like to answer and connect with the information from different sides. Genuinely love to respond to you guys.
But there need to be questions to respond, issues to solve, concepts to discuss.
I've been through so many that it is not an automatic one for me to just pull out. And I won't do anything else than what is automatic in this group. I am here, present, but I am receptive. Responding. I have a cat, a boat and myself to take care of, and if I had the energy to pour into something like this actively - I'd create a full programme and make it paid - and secure myself an alternative source of income. (which might happen in the future, I am not saying no). What I do (talking about this self-development thing) requires a lot of effort, and it requires attention and care. And since I am not the one to grow this for others (No-one can do that. Whatever someone else grows for you, you can't rely on), it needs to come from elsewhere - yourself.
I might have been a bit foolish to think that the community will work without me pouring the majority of the energy into it. But hey, it was a try. I just wanted to offer something I myself would have wanted in the past. But hey, you guys are not me. Haha. Maybe none of you actually want this, so it would be, again, foolish for me to expect you to value this on a similar level as I would (or do). It is a very specific thing.
Or maybe I'll be one day more "retiry" or in some easier circumstance and have a lots of time and energy on my hand to just grow this and do this regardless of the initial response (which is inherently how it works), so maybe at some point I'll have much more energy and time to invest into this and actually create a programme for free.
But that time is not now, I don't have spare energy and I can't have this group on my mind, trying to figure out what is the best thing to do now.
I like replying to you though, I really do. I only wanted to do that, and maybe some videos if I get inspired by a certain topic that you propose.
So I wonder if we can get this going somehow or if not, I will close this.
Maybe it was not the right time, or right people or right concept altogether.
Anyway I am very thankful for everyone present for this experiment, and I am most thankful to those who actually participate.
And if you need me - I will always be here.
You have my permission to contact me with anything you'd wish to contact me about.
I've let you know my thoughts - now let me know yours.
Nathalie
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MISUNDERSTANDING? Or the subejectivity of value
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