This is the work of a word study that I did on the Greek word άγάπη this is not a “how to” it is (one) result of the word study process.
Agape is the Greek word most often used in the New Testament to describe God’s love. It is not driven by emotion, attraction, or convenience. Agape is a settled decision to seek another’s good, no matter the cost. It moves toward the unlovely, forgives the undeserving, and remains faithful when love is not returned. Jesus embodied agape on the cross—choosing sacrifice over self-preservation. To practice agape today is to love deliberately: to serve when it’s inconvenient, to forgive when it hurts, and to act for the good of others without expecting anything in return.