4.7. Choose not to be harmed—-and you won't feel harmed.
Don't feel harmed—and you haven't been.
One of the core tenants of stoicism is that outside events don’t cause you to act a certain way, it’s merely your interpretation of it.
Viktor Frankl, author of man’s search for meaning, lived in a Nazi concentration camp, one of the hardest things any of us could imagine. Yet he talks about how the nazis could strip their dignity their sense of self worth, but they couldn’t strip their ability to perceive. So even in an concentrationcamp victor decided to perceive things differently to survive, even in one of the hardest situations a person could face, a situation where having a woe is me attitude would be justified viktor chose to perceive he situation in a way nothing outside of him including a Nazi officer could control.
How often do you let a person cutting you off in traffic get you angry, how often do you lash out at the tv when a politician does or says something you don’t like? You choose your perception and response in any moment, choose better perceptions, live a better life.