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Constant high expectations and overthinking
Hello everyone i just wanted to share what i have been feeling recently and how to manage with it.
This could be a long post but i cant explain in a short simple way .
From the past few days everyday when i wake up i am trying to may be improve myself too much especially in social skills and confidence. so whenever i go to school i focus on that which may be sets up a very high expectation from me and from others every single time. So whether i a meeting a friend i do a lot of overthinking. Even thought i have a good amount of friends in school bcuz of all this high expectation from me about them and constant thinking i have to improve in this and i am doing that.
All of this is making me quite tired and feeling less happy . i expect atleast any o the person or any one of friends to be with me wherever i go and when it does happen i do overthinking like why he is not coming etc etc. So even might many of my friends are good but i think due to constant expectation i might not be feeling happy even thought i am with them OR IS THERE something wrong on the opposite side. Also bcuz of this whenever i call someone in school and they talk to other at the exact moment even though they respond to me some seconds later but i feel they are ignoring me . I am just tired of this sad thought all day as even though i have friends i feel i am just draining myself and not enjoying my school . Also because of a recent thing with a girl whenever i think about it or some memory pop up abt that i get sad and idk how to overcome that ik the advice "that it is okay to remember that moments sometimes but it is imp to not get lost in these thoughts" but no one tells how to do this . I have been seeing a LOT OF YT VIDEOS abt all this topics and being just more confused and spending a lot of time on this rather than something useful. I feel like i compare myself too much or idk but like feel there are things wrong with me i should improve and when i try and i am not or result not showing i get depressed and sad without any major reason. Idk if i should be friends with many people or just be friends with less . I feel i know all the problems i have with myself and others (thanks to my shit habit of overthinking ) but i am just not able to find solutions to that or may be expecting a magical formula to fix all things .
Just wanted to share this to feel good and light and might be someone tells something which might improve me or atleast give temporary feeling which i get after spending hours on seeing videos abt these.
Thanks for reading
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Constant high expectations and overthinking
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