29d (edited) • Speak Up/Be Heard
How is this even our current reality?
It's amazing (still to this day) how often it's assumed that I know little to nothing when I step on a new boat. Or how often I get interrupted, spoken over, ignored, or subtly invalidated.
Once I was on a boat with someone I knew (but hadn't sailed with before) and downwind I turned around to call the breeze and talk through incoming puffs. At one point, WHILE I was calling breeze, the skipper interrupted me MID-SENTENCE to tell the brand-new-first-time-on-a-sailboat male crew, to look upwind and tell him about the next shift. The new guy just laughed and said, "I literally have no idea what that even means." and I was like... WTAF!...that is exactly what I am currently doing...are you F-ing kidding me right now?! I spent the rest of that race day in a frustrated spiral and will never sail with that skipper again.
In some ways, I think I've learned to expect it (which sucks) but at least I'm not caught off guard anymore. But I've also become a lot pickier about who I sail with. More recently I've begun to relish in just quietly being a badass and waiting for that one surprised comment when they finally realize I know what I'm doing. But of course that doesn't always happen. *sigh*
Are there any other tips or mantras you all have? I know we've all been there.
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How is this even our current reality?
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