We often think our "bad habits" or "personality flaws" are just who we are.
They aren't. They are armor we built to survive difficult times.
If you are a people pleaser, you learned that being agreeable kept you safe.
If you are aggressive, you learned that fighting back kept you from being hurt.
If you are distant, you learned that isolation protected your heart.
You are a survivor.
But you are wearing armor for a war that ended years ago.