Mar 30 • The Becoming Her Academy
And a child shall lead them
Yesterday during Youth Takeover, I had a moment with God that stayed with me.
I watched my 12-year-old daughter step out of her comfort zone and lead with a boldness, authority, and grace that made my spirit leap. She led praise dance and then did the welcome, and while she has always been gifted, there was something different about the way she showed up this time. It was not just participation. It was presence. It was confidence. It was weight. It was the kind of moment that makes you realize God has been working in someone beneath the surface long before you ever see it manifest publicly.
And as proud as I was of her, the lesson did not stop with her.
Because sometimes God will let you witness the elevation of someone else not just so you can celebrate what is happening in them, but so you can confront what you have not fully embraced in yourself.
That thing blessed me and checked me at the same time.
It blessed me because I could see God drawing something out of her that had been sitting there all along. But it also checked me because it made me think about how often we can clearly see the gifts, potential, power, and calling on somebody else while still struggling to fully believe in what God placed in us.
And if we are honest, that struggle usually is not because we are empty.
It is because we are wounded.
Emotional scars have a way of distorting your self-view.
Rejection will make you question your worth.
Disappointment will make you shrink.
Comparison will make you overlook your own oil.
Past hurt will make you second-guess your voice, your value, your leadership, and your ability to carry what God gave you.
So while we are clapping for other people’s growth, sometimes God is trying to use their moment as a mirror.
Not a mirror of envy.
A mirror of revelation.
A mirror that asks:
What do you see in them that you refuse to acknowledge in yourself?
Why is it easier for you to call them powerful than to believe that you are too?
Why do you trust what God is doing in them, but wrestle with what He is doing in you?
That is the real work.
Because the truth is, many of us have spent years seeing ourselves through the lens of pain instead of promise.
Through the lens of emotional scars instead of spiritual identity.
Through the lens of what happened to us instead of what God said about us.
And when you see yourself through hurt, you will misread your whole life.
You will call yourself weak when you are actually healing.
You will call yourself overlooked when you are actually being preserved.
You will call yourself unqualified when God has been developing you in private.
You will call yourself “too much” or “not enough” when Heaven has already called you chosen, capable, and graced.
That is why healing matters.
Because healing is not just about feeling better.
It is about seeing clearer.
It is about letting God remove every filter that trauma, rejection, fear, shame, and disappointment tried to place over your identity.
It is about learning to agree with Heaven even when your emotions are still catching up.
It is about rejecting the story your scars told and embracing the truth God has been speaking over you the whole time.
Seeing my daughter step up reminded me that identity has to be nurtured, called forth, and protected.
But it also reminded me that while we are praying for the people we love to walk boldly in who they are, we have to be willing to do the same.
Their elevation should not make us feel behind.
It should wake us up.
It should stir us.
It should remind us that God is still calling hidden things forward.
Maybe the reason their growth hit you so deeply is because it exposed where you are still playing small.
Maybe their boldness made your spirit leap because something in you is tired of shrinking.
Maybe watching them become reminded you that you are still becoming too.
And baby, that matters.
You cannot afford to keep seeing yourself through wounds that Heaven never assigned to your identity.
You cannot keep measuring your capabilities by your past.
You cannot keep letting fear narrate a life that God already anointed.
It is time to see yourself differently.
It is time to let healing touch your vision.
It is time to stop looking at yourself through the language of emotional scars and start looking at yourself through Heaven’s lens.
Heaven does not see damaged goods.
Heaven sees purpose.
Heaven sees grace.
Heaven sees leadership.
Heaven sees strength.
Heaven sees the version of you that pain tried to bury but God never stopped calling forth.
Reflection for the community:
Have you ever witnessed someone else’s elevation, boldness, or growth and realized it revealed something about you?
What did their moment make you confront about your own gifts, capacity, or hesitation?
How have emotional scars shaped the way you see yourself?
And what would it look like for you to begin seeing yourself through Heaven’s lens instead of the lens of rejection, fear, disappointment, comparison, or past pain?
Let’s talk about it. Because sometimes what God shows us through others is really an invitation to finally see ourselves right.
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