Anger gets a bad reputation, but it isn't the problem. Unprocessed anger is.
Anger is information. It shows up when a boundary has been crossed, a truth has been ignored, or something inside you knows that
"this isn't okay." The work isn't to suppress it or spiritualize it away. The work is to listen.
Start by letting anger exist without judgment.
You don't need to act on it to honor it. Name it. Feel where it lives in your body. Heat in the chest, tightness in the jaw, a buzzing under the skin. Awareness alone begins to move it.
Next, give it a safe outlet. Move your body.
Walk, lift, shake, breathe. Anger is energy, and energy needs motion. Stillness comes after expression, not before.
Ask the deeper question: what is this protecting? Anger often guards grief, fear, or unmet needs. When you listen closely, it will tell you exactly what needs to change.
Processing anger isn't about becoming softer or quieter. It's about becoming clearer. Clear in your boundaries. Clear in your voice. Clear in your direction.
When anger is honoured and integrated, it turns into power, discernment and self-respect.
That's not something to fear.
That's something to work with.