This morning, I was ready to quit the RMRSC. I had drafted what was going to be my last posting. Say my goodbyes and shut it down. Why? The idea that I would have to pay for the perks and features of this site. It bothered me that I have spent a year or so to rise to the level that I am and that perks that I had earned were suddenly being taken from me. I had done everything but hit the little yellow "post" button in the corner. I sat back, read what I had written and then thought about it. Did not having access to a few perks really bother me that much? I had read them and benefited from them but did it really matter after that? Was I losing the ability to interact with a community of like minded men? No. Was I losing access to the site? No. Was I not going to be able to learn and grown? No. Was I really losing anything? Again, no. I never hit post. If I had to put a moral to this little story is that, everything is not how it seems. Take a moment to reflect on what really matters and don't let the little things bother you. C

Can we stop with the weak victimhood mentality? So many people out here have anchored their identity in victimhood so hard that they forgot they ever had dreams to begin with. Who had it the hardest. Who's more hurt. Who's more "traumatized." Revisiting wounds. Repeating stories. Rehearsing pain over and over. Everyone's in a competition for who gets to wear the crown of pain. Who really cares? What are you doing now? Pain isn't status. It's the price of admission. You aren't supposed to "process" it and wallow in it forever. You aren't supposed to hide in the shadow of hardship to avoid the real work. Harness it. Aim it. Use it. Step up and create the ultimate version of yourself. Winners don't stay victims. They turn that which broke them into the weapon that builds them. There is zero nobility in wallowing in your sad story. The only nobility in your sad story is overcoming it and showing others they can do the same. ~ Andy Frisella