Personally answer these 5 childhood upbringing revealing questions in the comments:
1) Was cautious general resource rationing normalized or was it rarely addressed?
2) Were emotional obstacles comfortable to share or were they more personally resolved?
3) Was having doubts/questions accepted and processed or shut down?
4) Were you free to play/explore if it were loud or messy? What conditions were laid out?
5) Could you seek personal types of clothing/activities or were you expected to simply appreciate whatever you got?