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123. Don't wait 'til it's too late.
One of the most frequently reported takeaways from therapy is remembering positive comments that the therapist has made toward us.
Our egos are quick to internalise the comments that others make about our strengths and weaknesses.
And if we hear something repeatedly, it takes active effort for our self-identities not to align with those statements.
We could shift our internal self-talk to focus on the positives of our character, but that doesn’t resonate with the same intensity as hearing it from someone close to us.
Shouting positive affirmations in the mirror 100 times every morning will likely slowly improve our self-identity, but hearing the same affirmation from a loved one once changes us instantly.
When someone dies, we write a eulogy for them.
We share what they have dedicated their life to, who they have served, and what they excelled in.
Unfortunately, the person receiving all this appreciation is dead and the gratitude goes to waste.
But why do we need to wait for someone to die before we give them their flowers?
I’m sure that you have people in your life right now that you’re hugely grateful for, and others that you deeply respect.
Tell them.
You can message them out of the blue (you might need to clarify that it isn’t some suicidal goodbye message), or you can make a habit of doing it on people's birthdays/forced occasions.
Most of us think about birthdays, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, and Mother's/Father's Day as a capitalist mechanism to sling us more consumerist rubbish.
But it doesn’t have to be.
A card or a text expressing your genuine appreciation for their specific strengths will stick in their mind and have a much more impactful effect on them than buying them yet another pair of slippers.
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123. Don't wait 'til it's too late.
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