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One moment I snapped this week — here’s how I handle it or will handle it next time.
We have three kids, and we homeschool our kids. My wife does most of the teaching, but my oldest son has gotten to the point in math where my wife is not confident in teaching him the lessons. Anyway his curriculum this year has a video that goes over each lesson in depth, then he has homework he has to do. The problem is my son likes to jump ahead, and do any problems he knows how to do, and then gets frustrated when he gets to problems he doesn't know. I was helping him with the problems he couldn't figure out the other night, and it became obvious my son just had not watched the lessons. This was probably the 4th time in the last month this had happened. So my son is upset, it's late, so he's already tired from a full day, and basketball practice, and sitting late at night trying to do math he doesn't like, and then I'm seeing again, for the 4th time in a month that he just chose not to watch the videos, and now is blaming other people that it's too hard for him. Nevertheless I lost my cool with the absurdness of it all. I couldn't understand why my son would be frustrated with not knowing how to do math when he... didn't watch the lesson teaching him how to do math. We made a deal that from now on, he needs to watch the entire lesson, and do the example problems with the recorded teacher, and do the practice problems, before he asks me for help. I reiterated I will help, but I won't just sit here and teach the lesson to him when he could have easily watched the lesson and learned the concepts, the way the class itself is designed to do.
I do wish I would have handled it more calmly. I didn't yell, but he could tell I was upset. If I could go back, I would have removed myself from the room for a few minutes, probably just to the restroom, and done some breathwork, to make sure I kept my cool the entire time.
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One moment I snapped this week — here’s how I handle it or will handle it next time.
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