Lesson 3 · Main Character Lab

Lesson 3

My main character moment:

For a long time I thought others were judging me, so I constantly felt criticized. Then I realized that in fact, no one cares. But in the best way possible (of course friends care, but they don’t care about my faults and mess ups or ugly parts). Then I realized that actually, all those years of feeling judged I was projecting, and I was actually unknowingly being judgmental of others. It took a while to accept this reframing and revisit so many memories with this new awareness, and retroactively seeing how people were being actually very accepting and supportive even if I couldn’t see it at the time. But having lots of empathy for myself and non-judgement of myself has gone hand in hand with my ability to connect with others, and that has been one of my biggest revelations. That, how judged I feel by others is actually directly tied to how I decide to judge myself, and it comes from me first.

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