17h • General discussion
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Good morning!
“I worry people will leave me when I need them most.”
Have you ever said that quietly inside your own heart?
That sentence doesn’t come from drama.
It comes from history.
It comes from a nervous system that learned—early—that connection is unreliable.
That closeness can vanish.
That safety can suddenly disappear.
That love doesn’t always stay.
So now as an adult, your body remembers what your mind has tried to forget:
• The goodbye that came too soon
• The parent who had no space for your tears
• The caregiver who didn’t show up when it mattered
• The love that felt like home and then vanished
• The friend who stopped choosing you
The fear isn’t irrational.
It’s intelligent.
It’s survival.
Your nervous system built that fear to protect you from deeper pain:
👉 “If I expect them to leave, maybe it won’t hurt as much when they do.”
But here’s the truth that healing reveals:
Not everyone will leave.
Only the wrong ones will.
As you heal…
You stop chasing the emotionally unavailable.
You stop working overtime to earn love.
You stop performing so someone stays.
You stop shrinking so you’re easier to keep.
You begin to choose the ones who choose you.
You begin to trust what is consistent.
You begin to allow love that feels like peace.
You start to understand:
Abandonment didn’t happen because you were unworthy.
It happened because they were unready.
And the moment you realize that…
You become the one who gets to choose:
🖤 Who enters
🖤 Who stays
🖤 Who gets access
🖤 And who you are in relationship
Not everyone deserves the version of you who once begged to be held.
Some people only deserved the goodbye.
Your healing is not about proving you are worth staying for.
Your healing is about becoming someone who can stay for yourself.
No matter who comes or who goes.
That is emotional adulthood.
That is nervous system sovereignty.
That is Shadow Work.
— Dr. Jennifer
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