Welcome to Kettle & Candle School .....Live well. Plan well. Die well.

Put the kettle on. 😉 You made it here, and that already tells me something important: you’re willing to look at the parts of life most people avoid—death, grief, aging, endings—and you’d rather not do that alone.

👥This space is for people who feel the tug of questions like:

What do I want to do with the time I have left?
How do I carry my grief and still live?
How do I prepare—practically and emotionally—so I don’t leave a mess behind?

Here, we talk honestly about living and dying, love and loss, plans and paperwork, spirit and practicality. We make room for both the kettle (conversation, comfort, everyday life) and the candle (mortality, memory, sacredness of our limited time).

👉How this community works:

You’ll see different programs and posts here—like 365 — A Year To Live and Advanced Care Planning—but underneath it all is the same heartbeat:

Tell the truth about life and death.
Learn together, not alone.
Take small, brave steps toward living and dying in alignment with your values.
You are welcome to come exactly as you are: curious, scared, hopeful, tired, grieving, unsure, or all of the above.

🙌Introduce yourself (in a way that actually matters)

When you’re ready, say hello in the comments below. You can answer any of these prompts—just what feels right:

What season of life are you in right now, in a few words? (Examples: “Midlife and re-evaluating everything,” “Fresh in grief,” “Caregiver mode,” “Aging and taking stock.”)
What quietly brought you to Kettle & Candle? A loss, a diagnosis, a birthday, a near-miss, a deep curiosity, a professional calling?
When you think about death, grief, or aging, what feeling shows up first? (No need to be poetic. “Terrified,” “numb,” “relieved to finally talk about it” all count.)
What is one hope you have for yourself in this space over the next year? (Big or small: “Get my paperwork started,” “Not feel so alone,” “Make peace with a part of my story,” etc.)
Is there a small comfort or ritual that helps you feel grounded lately? (Tea, walking, gardening, journaling, music, prayer, sitting in the sunshine…)

☝️You do not have to answer all of these. Even a simple:

“Hi, I’m [name], and I’m here because ______.”

…is more than enough.

If you’re not ready to share details, you can also just write:

“I’m here. I’m reading. I’ll share when I’m ready.”

That counts as an introduction too.

A gentle note:💓

This community is not therapy or emergency support, but it is a place for honest, tender conversation. We will respect each other’s stories, privacy, and limits. Tears are welcome. Laughter is welcome. Silence is allowed.

I’m glad you’re here….Put the kettle on, light a candle if you’d like, and when you’re ready—tell us a little about the you who arrived. 🫖🕯️

— Pam

👉Disclaimer: This material is for education and reflection only and is not legal, medical, financial, or mental health advice. Please consult appropriate licensed professionals before making decisions about your health, finances, or estate.

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