I have been working hard on my yoga teacher training. I keep making links between my yogic practice and my holistic leadership practice. It's the same linkage between global spiritual practice/wisdom and modern business insights. There's a sweet spot and a joy that bubbles up knowing that the work is the work. It's the same work.
I've been researching the yamas and niyamas over the past four months, reading a lovely book called The Yamas & Niyamas: Exploring Yoga's Ethical Practice by Deborah Adele. In my coaching of an executive leader at a private school in Chicago, I can't help myself think about the Yama (principle for how you're supposed to treat yourself) called Asteya, or non-stealing.
Part of Asteya is "Building Our Competence." There's a concept called adikara in Sanskrit, or the right to know or right to have. If we want something, then we better grow the competency required to have it. We can dream and wish all we want, but we only get what we want if we have the competency to have it and keep it.
You mean to tell me that it's STEALING not to act on our dreams? Yes. That's what I am saying. I never thought of it quite like that before.
Deborah Adele says that adikara is like a colander with lots of holes. I might seek something -- a promotion, a new job, a higher salary -- but it eludes me. These are the holes. Building our adikara is like patching our holes. Building our competency takes practice and learning. It takes willingness. It takes a beginner's mindset. Yes, a willingness to be bad at something for a while until we get the hang of it.
Preparing ourselves to hold what we want is an exciting full time job. It moves away from any victim stories of "they didn't give it to me" or "I didn't get it" into full responsibility for our lives. Imagine becoming a capable steward for what we ask for. Focus on your goals, dreams, and desires, and then get to work. Build the competency to have them.
Seek out mentors and learn from people who have already accomplished what you are seeking...and compensate them fairly.
Life gives us tasks to help us grow into the kind of person that life can trust with important things. Don't mistake these tasks for burdens. They are opportunities to help you grow. You are meant to open yourself up to a world of joy and possibility!