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The Truth About Waiting on a Husband as a Single Mom
“I’ve already been through it.”
For a woman who hasn’t had children, the idea of marriage is often a dream of the unknown.
But for us—women who have a child and have survived relationships that damaged us—it isn’t a dream.
It’s a memory.
And a deep desire to make new ones.
We have done the work. We have renewed our minds, our souls, and our bodies through Christ. We know we are pure. We know we are new. Yet the challenge of the wait is often navigating a world that sees us as “leftovers” or our children as “mistakes.”
It is the frustration of being a transformed, healed woman in a society that wants to label your history rather than honor your growth.
If you’re reading this as a single mother who has done the work and is still waiting—you’re not alone.
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The “Sarah” Laughter
Think about Sarah. When she was told she would have a child at ninety, she laughed.
Her laughter wasn’t about confusion or a lack of faith. It was the reaction of a woman who was old and wise. She understood the true gravity of what it meant to have a child at her age—the physical cost and the years of life it would require.
She wasn’t naïve to the process. She was a woman of deep experience who understood exactly what that journey would demand.
As a single mom, your desire for a husband is real—but you aren’t looking for a “fairytale” first-time experience. You are looking for a promise that honors the wisdom you now possess. You understand the gravity of building a family and the reality of the walk.
God didn’t need Sarah to be a blank slate.
He honored the woman she was in that very moment—wisdom and all.
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The Abigail Standard
Then there is Abigail.
She was a woman who had already been through the fire of a marriage to a “fool.” She didn’t come to David as a “fresh start” with no past. She came as a woman who was already a protector and a leader of her household.
David didn’t see “baggage” or a “second-hand” woman. He saw a woman of good understanding. He recognized that her value wasn’t in being untouched by life, but in being refined by it.
She was a woman who knew exactly who she was. She didn’t have to shrink her history or hide the damage she had survived to fit into a king’s future.
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Knowing Your Own Skin
This wait isn’t about the children you have or the children you might have.
This is about you.
You have done the hard work of renewal. You have changed. You are standing in your truth, yet you are navigating the reality of being an individual in a world that has already labeled you.
You are tired of being referred to as “the one with the baby,” as if your identity has been swallowed up by motherhood.
You have a deep desire for a husband—someone who is a Godly example and understands the dynamic of parenthood—but you refuse to settle for anyone who sees your life as a “complication.”
You don’t have to pretend you don’t have memories or fears. Those aren’t signs of weakness. They are the tools of your wisdom.
You must trust that the same God who renewed your soul is capable of honoring the woman you are today.
You are not “leftovers.”
And your child is not a “mistake.”
You are a woman of God, standing in a purity that the world didn’t give you—and the world cannot take away.
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A Moment of Reflection
What is one label someone has put on you that you are officially handing over to God today?
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