Oct '25 • 🏆 Wins
This helped me with social confidence
This helped me with social confidence.
I have tried a lot of things.
EFT tapping.
CBT.
Meditation.
Journaling.
Etc.
They all helped a little bit.
But not permanently.
I would spiral back to social anxiety until
I realized.
There was this key part missing:
SELF RESPECT.
If you asked me if I respected myself
I would have said:
"Yeah, sure."
And I meant it. Because...
I thought I respected myself.
But
I discovered that this was not true
When I found out that if I shrank around people that I perceived as superior...
Had more money
Were better looking
Taller...
Were confident...
Louder...
More successful...
Whatever...
If I felt smaller around those people was because
I did not respect myself.
That is when I figured that
All I had to do was
Develop self respect.
So much that when I am around anyone (taller, good looking, smart, stronger)
I would still behave the same - just being me.
To respect myself so much that
When I screwed up, fall, stumble, say the wrong thing...
I would be ok, and not stress about it.
Because I would still respect myself.
This is what I have been working on.
This is what has helped me beat social anxiety and get socially confident to a point where I can:
- start conversations with anyone
- look forward to seeing people
- volunteer to be the one to go out to the store
- make new friends
- engage in long conversations without overthinking or feeling anxiety rising and excusing myself out of the conversation (gotta go to the bathroom)
- speak in public
- and be able to enjoy life feeling free
That is what I wanted to share.
I hope it helps you too.
Build self respect.
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This helped me with social confidence
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