Practicing some Martial Arts for... oh my... such a looong time now, I have to admit: I did not start with all of my heart... I was hesitant. Isn't that a way of being aggressive, fighting and so on? All that what in my heart of hearts I did not want to encourage in me and others! At all.
Finding contact to Budo (Japanese Martial Arts) was a bit different and in a way funny, I guess. I went to the gym for a Jazz Dance Class, which was cancelled and while waiting for others to talk over what to do instead, I met a guy carrying a "long stick", wrapped in a beautiful cloth. This guy asked me if I would not like to join his class... long story, cut short: Not only became he later my boy friend (oops), I got introducec to Kyudo (Japanese Bow (the "long stick") Shooting), later I took on Kenjitsu (Sword Fighting Art) and Jiu-Jitsu.
If at all, I became less "aggressive", more focused, more relaxed about things and myself... and stronger, quicker in my decisions... flexible... and so on. So the Way of the Budoka and similar ways of finding us in our Body and Mind and Psyche makes us humble, not small, stronger, not more standoffish.
And I encourage especially girls and women to try out, if this could be something helpful for them. Not predominantly as self-defense techniques, that is very important, too, yet a totally different story to be told, but to find yourself.
Has anyone in our beautiful community any expediences in this direction? I would be curious... Thank you!!!